PACK­ING GUIDE

Weight Watchers Magazine (Australia) - - Mindset -

ONCE YOU KNOW WHY YOU WANT TO TAKE THE ROAD LESS TRAV­ELLED, HERE ARE SOME HELP­FUL TOOLS TO PACK TO KEEP YOU FO­CUSED ON YOUR NEW AD­VEN­TURE.

A MAP

For many of us, neg­a­tive self-talk comes up when we’re afraid of fail­ing on this new path. This is where a map to your des­ti­na­tion can come in handy – the di­rec­tions could be writ­ten by some­one else who’s al­ready done what you’d like to do, so you can sim­ply fol­low their lead, or the map could fea­ture cues from your past when you’ve tried some­thing and suc­ceeded, says Dunn. “Even if it’s in a dif­fer­ent area of life – it’s all trans­fer­able,” she ex­plains.

SWISS ARMY KNIFE

It’s im­por­tant to learn to sym­bol­i­cally cut the ties to any thoughts that are pulling you away from your des­ti­na­tion. “A mind ful­ness-based ap­proach is just to see those thoughts and not en­gage with them. Thoughts aren’t facts, but we tend to be­lieve them and give them great

weight. Thoughts then cre­ate anx­ious feel­ings and stress or anx­i­ety re­sponses in our body, and our de­fault re­sponse is to avoid that dis­com­fort or to in­ter­pret it as some­thing dan­ger­ous when pos­si­bly it’s not,” Dunn says. “If we can ‘un­hook’ from the neg­a­tive thoughts and move our aware­ness to feel­ings and bod­ily sen­sa­tions, we can then do some­thing help­ful to calm our nerves and keep mov­ing for­ward with­out let­ting the sto­ries in our head ex­ac­er­bate those fears.”

NOTEBOOK

Once you’re on the road and the feel­ing of fear comes up, de­fine what it is you’re afraid of and write it down. “For some peo­ple, the fear of fail­ure pre­vents them from ever try­ing any­thing new, so it’s help­ful to re­mem­ber that it’s only in try­ing and fail­ing that we have the op­por­tu­nity to grow. And some­times, the fear of suc­cess is just as de­bil­i­tat­ing (for ex­am­ple, I’ll out­grow my friends or fam­ily; I’ll get un­wanted at­ten­tion), so it’s

im­por­tant to un­der­stand what sub­con­scious be­liefs might be hold­ing you back. Some­times just ar­tic­u­lat­ing those fears takes a lot of the charge out of them,” says Dunn.

UM­BRELLA

You wouldn’t let a bit of rain stop you from ever step­ping out­side, right? No, you’d open an um­brella and brave the el­e­ments. So don’t let nerves stop you from go­ing on your new ad­ven­ture – find what­ever it is you need to of­fer some as­sur­ance, then know that you’ll be okay even if things don’t work out as you planned and keep on walk­ing. “It’s im­por­tant to un­der­stand that wait­ing for fear to pass be­fore tak­ing ac­tion could mean you wait for­ever and never step out­side your com­fort zone,” Dunn says. “The goal should be to learn to tol­er­ate some anx­i­ety or dis­com­fort and move for­ward re­gard­less. If we keep avoid­ing things un­til the fear goes, the fear of­ten grows stronger and we stay stag­nant and miss all those amaz­ing op­por­tu­ni­ties for growth.”

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