Author’s drive to help women

Western Suburbs Weekly - - Health - By LISA THOMAS

SU­BI­ACO author, busi­ness­woman and mother Kelly Ex­eter will speak at the Western Sub­urbs Busi­ness As­so­ci­a­tion Busi­ness Women’s Lunch to­day, on how to achieve what you want in life, with­out con­stant stress.

The blog­ger of A Life Less Fran­tic and author of Prac­ti­cal Per­fec­tion said she suf­fered a break­down af­ter the birth of her first child, while try­ing to jug­gle her graphic de­sign busi­ness and main­tain con­trol over her life.

Mrs Ex­eter said highly driven women had a habit of putting ev­ery­thing and ev­ery­one be­fore them­selves and hoped she could help women to pri­ori­tise what was im­por­tant.

“I’m a highly pro­duc­tive per­son. I aim to get more out of ev­ery sec­ond of the day, but a few years ago I started to cre­ate in­ef­fi­cien­cies in the day, so I could move slower,” she said.

“I would find my­self in a state of con­stant stress and over­whelm and be­ing worn out, so I came up with a frame­work, to stop my­self ear­lier, when I fell into that pat­tern.”

Mrs Ex­eter said one thing women strug­gled with was dis­ap­point­ing peo­ple and learning how to say no.

“Most women are peo­ple-pleasers. By let­ting other peo­ple set the agenda to our lives, you’re set­ting your­self up to dis­ap­point peo­ple any­way,” she said.

“Ev­ery­one al­ways says learn how to say no, and de­spite that ad­vice, no one does. The de­fault re­sponse I came up with was “let me get back to you” to help avoid that knee­jerk yes and over-com­mit­ting your­self or feel­ing bad when you can’t make it.”

Mrs Ex­eter said she was look­ing for­ward to the lunch and hoped to help women in a sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tion.

“I’d love to help women look at their lives and iden­tify im­me­di­ate changes to re­duce the amount of rush­ing in their day and to avoid that over­whelmed and burnt-out feel­ing,” she said.

Mrs Ex­eter said the one thing she hoped women would take away from her pre­sen­ta­tion was to stop com­par­ing them­selves to a “high­light reel” and schedul­ing ev­ery minute of the day.

“Don’t com­pare some­one’s high­light reel on so­cial me­dia to your ev­ery­day life. You are not see­ing them knee deep in laun­dry or dishes, but only see­ing the best parts of their lives,” she said.

The luch is at Chez Pierre Res­tau­rant from noon-2pm to­day.

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Kelly Ex­eter.

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