‘Rainbow baby’ helps mum to beat the blues
EMMA Fraser will meet her ‘rainbow baby’ for the first time tomorrow.
The 40-year-old single mother by choice will give birth to her daughter just over a year after losing her twin boys Sebastien and Samuel at 18 weeks.
A rainbow baby refers to a child born after a miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death or infant loss.
Ms Fraser, from Canning Vale, said she struggled to find the support she needed after her sons were stillborn but stumbled across Rainbow Day, which is part of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
On October 15, people around the world honour and celebrate babies who are no longer here, as well as children born after loss.
The international brand strategist and marketing consultant said WA and NSW were the only Australian states that recognised the day and she wanted to raise awareness and support to help other families.
“I think it’s really important because of the effect loss has on mental health,” Ms Fraser said. “I want to see how many people we can get on board to organise an event in Perth.
“It could be 10 people; it’s about getting it out there. With my little girl, I will take her to let off two blue balloons every year.
“I also have a shelf in the nursery where the ashes sit with the scans.”
Ms Fraser, who moved from NSW to Perth in September last year to be closer to her parents, said people were not talking about the loss of a baby.
Ms Fraser fell pregnant with her twins following IVF soon after her 40th birthday.
At nine weeks, doctors told her she was carrying monochorionic monoamniotic twins, meaning the babies shared a placenta, umbilical cord and sac.
It was a high-risk pregnancy with only a 50 per cent chance the identical twins would survive.
“I got past the 12- and 14-week markers and the fact I lost them just before 18 weeks was a big shock,” Ms Fraser said.
“I quit work in February last year and got postpartum physical issues, so went through acupuncture and counselling.”
Ms Fraser said while she felt some guilt falling pregnant with her daughter so soon after losing her twins, she was excited to meet her rainbow baby. To read her full story, visit www.mumistheboss.com.
Emma Fraser is excited about meeting her daughter tomorrow.