‘Rain­bow baby’ helps mum to beat the blues

Western Suburbs Weekly - - News - Denise S. Cahill

EMMA Fraser will meet her ‘rain­bow baby’ for the first time to­mor­row.

The 40-year-old sin­gle mother by choice will give birth to her daugh­ter just over a year after los­ing her twin boys Se­bastien and Sa­muel at 18 weeks.

A rain­bow baby refers to a child born after a mis­car­riage, still­birth, neona­tal death or in­fant loss.

Ms Fraser, from Can­ning Vale, said she strug­gled to find the sup­port she needed after her sons were still­born but stum­bled across Rain­bow Day, which is part of Preg­nancy and In­fant Loss Re­mem­brance Day.

On Oc­to­ber 15, peo­ple around the world hon­our and cel­e­brate ba­bies who are no longer here, as well as chil­dren born after loss.

The in­ter­na­tional brand strate­gist and mar­ket­ing con­sul­tant said WA and NSW were the only Aus­tralian states that recog­nised the day and she wanted to raise aware­ness and sup­port to help other fam­i­lies.

“I think it’s re­ally im­por­tant be­cause of the ef­fect loss has on men­tal health,” Ms Fraser said. “I want to see how many peo­ple we can get on board to or­gan­ise an event in Perth.

“It could be 10 peo­ple; it’s about get­ting it out there. With my lit­tle girl, I will take her to let off two blue bal­loons ev­ery year.

“I also have a shelf in the nurs­ery where the ashes sit with the scans.”

Ms Fraser, who moved from NSW to Perth in Septem­ber last year to be closer to her par­ents, said peo­ple were not talk­ing about the loss of a baby.

Ms Fraser fell preg­nant with her twins fol­low­ing IVF soon after her 40th birth­day.

At nine weeks, doc­tors told her she was car­ry­ing mono­chori­onic monoam­ni­otic twins, mean­ing the ba­bies shared a pla­centa, um­bil­i­cal cord and sac.

It was a high-risk preg­nancy with only a 50 per cent chance the iden­ti­cal twins would sur­vive.

“I got past the 12- and 14-week mark­ers and the fact I lost them just be­fore 18 weeks was a big shock,” Ms Fraser said.

“I quit work in Fe­bru­ary last year and got post­par­tum phys­i­cal is­sues, so went through acupunc­ture and coun­selling.”

Ms Fraser said while she felt some guilt fall­ing preg­nant with her daugh­ter so soon after los­ing her twins, she was ex­cited to meet her rain­bow baby. To read her full story, visit www.mu­mis­the­boss.com.

Pic­ture: An­drew Ritchie d464145

Emma Fraser is ex­cited about meet­ing her daugh­ter to­mor­row.

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