Western Suburbs Weekly - - Westernopinion -

WHEN Char­lotte Pil­grim-byrne’s two mums got mar­ried, it didn’t change any­thing.

She al­ways knew her par­ents loved each other.

The 10-year-old summed up the cer­e­mony by say­ing: “It’s an­other way of say­ing I love you for­ever”. Kelly and Sam Pil­grim-byrne fought for Char­lotte, lit­er­ally. The cou­ple of 24 years stood on the steps of State Par­lia­ment sev­eral times fight­ing for equal rights for same-sex cou­ples and reg­is­tered for fer­til­ity treat­ment as soon as they could.

But the fight wasn’t over. Kelly started IUI cy­cles with­out suc­cess, so in 2004 had her first IVF cy­cle and then a frozen em­bryo trans­fer in Oc­to­ber. She en­dured 30 cy­cles but never achieved a vi­able preg­nancy. In 2005, Sam tried to fall preg­nant with IUI and had 15 cy­cles of IVF be­fore fall­ing preg­nant with Char­lotte.

The cou­ple used a known sperm donor; it was im­por­tant to them. “We re­alised early on that we wanted any po­ten­tial child to be able to know about where they came from,” Kelly said.

“We ten­ta­tively asked a friend of ours who lives in an­other state if he would con­sider do­nat­ing to us and he quite rightly took a pe­riod her well­be­ing, re­gard­less of them be­ing a rea­son­able dis­tance away.”

While it was clearly very spe­cial hav­ing Char­lotte by Kelly and Sam’s side, it struck me as back­ward that WA al­lowed same-sex cou­ples to have a child 15 years be­fore they al­lowed th­ese com­mit­ted cou­ples to marry.

It just shows this “yes vote” was way too long com­ing. Denise S. Cahill, Ed­i­tor

of time to con­sider if it was the right thing for him to do. “Af­ter a pe­riod of three months he came back to us and told us it would be a priv­i­lege to help us. “We have vis­ited him and his fam­ily a num­ber of times, and he and his fam­ily have been to Perth to see Char­lotte.

“We are in con­tact via the phone or email, and it’s lovely to know that Char­lotte has an ex­tended group of peo­ple who care about

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