FERTILE GROUND FOR SAME-SEX MARRIAGE
WHEN Charlotte Pilgrim-byrne’s two mums got married, it didn’t change anything.
She always knew her parents loved each other.
The 10-year-old summed up the ceremony by saying: “It’s another way of saying I love you forever”. Kelly and Sam Pilgrim-byrne fought for Charlotte, literally. The couple of 24 years stood on the steps of State Parliament several times fighting for equal rights for same-sex couples and registered for fertility treatment as soon as they could.
But the fight wasn’t over. Kelly started IUI cycles without success, so in 2004 had her first IVF cycle and then a frozen embryo transfer in October. She endured 30 cycles but never achieved a viable pregnancy. In 2005, Sam tried to fall pregnant with IUI and had 15 cycles of IVF before falling pregnant with Charlotte.
The couple used a known sperm donor; it was important to them. “We realised early on that we wanted any potential child to be able to know about where they came from,” Kelly said.
“We tentatively asked a friend of ours who lives in another state if he would consider donating to us and he quite rightly took a period her wellbeing, regardless of them being a reasonable distance away.”
While it was clearly very special having Charlotte by Kelly and Sam’s side, it struck me as backward that WA allowed same-sex couples to have a child 15 years before they allowed these committed couples to marry.
It just shows this “yes vote” was way too long coming. Denise S. Cahill, Editor
of time to consider if it was the right thing for him to do. “After a period of three months he came back to us and told us it would be a privilege to help us. “We have visited him and his family a number of times, and he and his family have been to Perth to see Charlotte.
“We are in contact via the phone or email, and it’s lovely to know that Charlotte has an extended group of people who care about