Get a headstart on parenting
BECOMING a parent is one of the most rewarding things a person can accomplish, but that’s not to say it doesn’t come with its share of challenges.
The Whitsunday Neighbourhood Centre is hosting a Parenting 101 workshop, with parenting expert Donna Martin.
Ms Martin is a master practitioner of neuro linguistic programming, which explores the connection of thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Ms Martin has helped parents across Queensland become better parents through examining children’s development, language used in the home, emotions, routines and parenting styles.
“Children are very intuitive, everything they learn is from their parents or people closest to them,” Ms Martin said.
“When you explore the developmental ages of children, they have an imprint stage which lasts from birth right up until seven years of age.
“What they take on in their early years may not be applicable to their adult lives.”
Language is one of the most important factors in parent- ing, and using words like ‘no’ or ‘don’t’ isn’t necessarily giving your child the right message.
“The subconscious mind doesn’t understand the word ‘don’t’. If you tell a child ‘don’t slam the door’, they’ve heard you say ‘slam the door’. But if you say ‘please close the door quietly’, they’ve heard something completely different and they’re more likely to follow your direction,” she said.
“Children aren’t logical thinkers. The average toddler hears the word ‘no’ up to 400 times a day. Language patterns occur in the mind and soon that word can lose all meaning.”
There will be further parenting 101 workshops through the year, which Ms Martin says will give parents a more thorough understanding of communicating with their child.
“You really need to attend all the workshops to reap the full benefits,” she said.
PARENTING 101: Donna Martin of Defining Moves will be hosting a series of parenting workshops.