A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE
Men’s Health editor Luke Benedictus gives his take on the new dating world.
I wasn’t single for many years. Then, quite suddenly, I was again. I found myself heinously out of practice when it came to the dating game. The last time I’d been unattached was so long ago that I hadn’t even owned a mobile phone. Potential wingmen were now tethered to small children or more interested in weekend farmers’ markets than weeknight beers. I promptly signed myself up to Tinder. What I found is that this is probably the best time to be single in the history of the planet. You’re less dependent on the whims of synchronicity. Instead of passively waiting for a toothsome stranger to catch your eye, you’ve now got half a chance of taking control of your love life. Of course, there are potential downsides. The fact you can always get a date can also mean that you make less effort. The sheer multitude of options can also lead to decision fatigue. But that’s a question of mindset. Novelty value has its limits. Yes, it’s always exciting to meet up with someone for the very first time. But ultimately, if a book is worth reading, you want to continue past the first chapter and see how things unfold. Plus, while apps may have changed the mode of introduction, many things about dating remain the same. Meeting the right person is still a random business. If you want to do more than ‘get lucky’, you still need a huge slice of luck. I personally copped an avalanche of good fortune. I went on Tinder resolutely not looking for a relationship. I wound up with a gorgeous fiancee and a baby boy. Perhaps that’s the biggest thing I learnt from my Tinder adventures: you always need to keep an open mind.