A MAN’S PER­SPEC­TIVE

Men’s Health edi­tor Luke Bene­dic­tus gives his take on the new dat­ing world.

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I wasn’t sin­gle for many years. Then, quite sud­denly, I was again. I found my­self heinously out of prac­tice when it came to the dat­ing game. The last time I’d been un­at­tached was so long ago that I hadn’t even owned a mo­bile phone. Po­ten­tial wing­men were now teth­ered to small chil­dren or more in­ter­ested in week­end farm­ers’ mar­kets than week­night beers. I promptly signed my­self up to Tin­der. What I found is that this is prob­a­bly the best time to be sin­gle in the his­tory of the planet. You’re less de­pen­dent on the whims of syn­chronic­ity. In­stead of pas­sively wait­ing for a tooth­some stranger to catch your eye, you’ve now got half a chance of tak­ing con­trol of your love life. Of course, there are po­ten­tial down­sides. The fact you can al­ways get a date can also mean that you make less ef­fort. The sheer mul­ti­tude of op­tions can also lead to de­ci­sion fa­tigue. But that’s a ques­tion of mind­set. Nov­elty value has its lim­its. Yes, it’s al­ways ex­cit­ing to meet up with some­one for the very first time. But ul­ti­mately, if a book is worth read­ing, you want to con­tinue past the first chap­ter and see how things un­fold. Plus, while apps may have changed the mode of in­tro­duc­tion, many things about dat­ing re­main the same. Meet­ing the right per­son is still a ran­dom busi­ness. If you want to do more than ‘get lucky’, you still need a huge slice of luck. I per­son­ally copped an avalanche of good for­tune. I went on Tin­der res­o­lutely not look­ing for a re­la­tion­ship. I wound up with a gor­geous fi­ancee and a baby boy. Per­haps that’s the big­gest thing I learnt from my Tin­der ad­ven­tures: you al­ways need to keep an open mind.

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