Sex, please, we’re Bri­tish! Women pay­ing for ‘es­corts’ in record num­bers

Daily Nation (Barbados) - - PEOPLE -

WHEN ENG­LAND PLAYED and lost the third Test match in Bar­ba­dos, many English women were seen on the coun­try’s beaches and on the streets es­corted by Bajan men, some with dread­locks.

What hap­pened be­hind closed doors of ho­tels, guest houses and pri­vate homes be­fore, dur­ing and af­ter the ex­cit­ing game at Kens­ing­ton Oval might be a mat­ter of spec­u­la­tion, but Ba­jans who saw the English vis­i­tors, of­ten hand in hand with their “es­corts”, be­lieve the women and the Bajan men had sex and money on their minds.

Now, the pre­lim­i­nary re­sults of a sci­en­tific study in Eng­land lend some cre­dence to that con­clu­sion.

The re­search, led by Sarah Kingston of Lan­caster Uni­ver­sity and Natalie Ham­mond of Manch­ester Metropoli­tan Uni­ver­sity, fo­cused on the at­ti­tude of the women and men in Eng­land to ca­sual but com­mer­cial sex. The sci­en­tists found that more Bri­tish women than ever be­fore are now pay­ing for sex­ual ser­vices and they are do­ing so for a mix of sex­ual grat­i­fi­ca­tion and for short-term com­pan­ion­ship.

The women, said re­searchers, were from all back­grounds and ages and were look­ing for the “boyfriend ex­pe­ri­ence”, not a last­ing re­la­tion­ship. In­deed, the sci­en­tists quoted the “male es­corts” as say­ing that many of the women with whom they got into bed were in es­tab­lished re­la­tion­ships but wanted to spice up their ac­tiv­i­ties be­tween the sheets at home.

The re­searchers are promis­ing a more de­tailed ex­am­i­na­tion of the grow­ing trend but in the mean­time, they have re­ported:

Ca­reer women who don’t have time for the de­mands of se­ri­ous in­ti­mate re­la­tion­ships are us­ing their phones and the In­ter­net to hook up with male es­corts for sex and other ac­tiv­i­ties.

Bri­tish women want more than just sex­ual in­ter­course. They are also look­ing for other things and are will­ing to pay for them.

The de­mand for male es­corts has sky­rock­eted in or­der to sat­isfy the de­mand in Eng­land. In­deed, the es­ti­mated num­ber of male es­corts there has tripled in re­cent years, go­ing from just un­der 5 200 in 2010 to 15 732 so far this year.

The women turn to paid es­corts be­cause they want to pro­tect them­selves from any in­dis­cre­tion of men in con­ven­tional re­la­tion­ships.

“Our par­tic­i­pants [in the study] say most of the women who buy sex are pro­fes­sional peo­ple, some of whom may sim­ply want plea­sur­able sex­ual ex­pe­ri­ences.” Many of the women are in their 30s and 40s. Fe­males of­ten want to go out for a drink, have a meal or even a mas­sage be­fore mov­ing onto the bed­room, which they call the “boyfriend ex­pe­ri­ence”.

The re­search in­volved in­ter­view­ing men, women and trans­gen­der in­di­vid­u­als. The sci­en­tists said they were seek­ing “to ex­plore the mo­ti­va­tions and ex­pe­ri­ences of women who book es­corts” and were pay­ing up.

Bar­ba­dian so­cial sci­en­tists who have ex­am­ined what they de­ri­sively call the “beach bum” phe­nom­e­non, have said that Euro­pean women and fe­males from Canada, the United States and Bri­tain who come to Bar­ba­dos and other Caribbean coun­tries os­ten­si­bly for sea, sun and sex, pay “hand­somely” for the ex­pe­ri­ence to avoid any last­ing ties to the men. That’s why the money is of­ten called “stud fees”, mean­ing funds for ser­vices ren­dered.

In­ter­est­ingly, some of the re­la­tion­ships which started as an ar­range­ment for money and sex have ended up in mar­riage, with the Bajan men mov­ing to North Amer­ica, Bri­tain and Europe.

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