Sex, please, we’re British! Women paying for ‘escorts’ in record numbers
WHEN ENGLAND PLAYED and lost the third Test match in Barbados, many English women were seen on the country’s beaches and on the streets escorted by Bajan men, some with dreadlocks.
What happened behind closed doors of hotels, guest houses and private homes before, during and after the exciting game at Kensington Oval might be a matter of speculation, but Bajans who saw the English visitors, often hand in hand with their “escorts”, believe the women and the Bajan men had sex and money on their minds.
Now, the preliminary results of a scientific study in England lend some credence to that conclusion.
The research, led by Sarah Kingston of Lancaster University and Natalie Hammond of Manchester Metropolitan University, focused on the attitude of the women and men in England to casual but commercial sex. The scientists found that more British women than ever before are now paying for sexual services and they are doing so for a mix of sexual gratification and for short-term companionship.
The women, said researchers, were from all backgrounds and ages and were looking for the “boyfriend experience”, not a lasting relationship. Indeed, the scientists quoted the “male escorts” as saying that many of the women with whom they got into bed were in established relationships but wanted to spice up their activities between the sheets at home.
The researchers are promising a more detailed examination of the growing trend but in the meantime, they have reported:
Career women who don’t have time for the demands of serious intimate relationships are using their phones and the Internet to hook up with male escorts for sex and other activities.
British women want more than just sexual intercourse. They are also looking for other things and are willing to pay for them.
The demand for male escorts has skyrocketed in order to satisfy the demand in England. Indeed, the estimated number of male escorts there has tripled in recent years, going from just under 5 200 in 2010 to 15 732 so far this year.
The women turn to paid escorts because they want to protect themselves from any indiscretion of men in conventional relationships.
“Our participants [in the study] say most of the women who buy sex are professional people, some of whom may simply want pleasurable sexual experiences.” Many of the women are in their 30s and 40s. Females often want to go out for a drink, have a meal or even a massage before moving onto the bedroom, which they call the “boyfriend experience”.
The research involved interviewing men, women and transgender individuals. The scientists said they were seeking “to explore the motivations and experiences of women who book escorts” and were paying up.
Barbadian social scientists who have examined what they derisively call the “beach bum” phenomenon, have said that European women and females from Canada, the United States and Britain who come to Barbados and other Caribbean countries ostensibly for sea, sun and sex, pay “handsomely” for the experience to avoid any lasting ties to the men. That’s why the money is often called “stud fees”, meaning funds for services rendered.
Interestingly, some of the relationships which started as an arrangement for money and sex have ended up in marriage, with the Bajan men moving to North America, Britain and Europe.