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and I have re­cently moved our fam­ily (in­clud­ing my dad) to your coun­try.

Your ad­vice would be wel­comed in mak­ing this com­pli­cated and emo­tional de­ci­sion.

– DAISY

Dear Daisy, Your de­ci­sion is not an easy one, and you have my sym­pa­thy. The ques­tion you must an­swer re­lates to whether your fa­ther is aware enough of now, I don’t know what to think. Please give me some ad­vice.

– UN­SURE

Dear Un­sure, First, your con­cept of set­tling down is not quite ac­cu­rate. Once you find your true love, you marry, set­tle down and start a fam­ily. Have you found your true love? I don’t think so. Also, what I am not cer­tain about is if your boyfriend is the fa­ther of your son. You keep re­fer­ring to the child as “my son” rather than “our son”.

That aside, do not al­low this man to limit your tele­phone con­tact or vis­its with friends and fam­ily. This is a clas­sic sign of an abuser, and so is con­stantly pick­ing ar­gu­ments. You ap­pear to be do­ing ev­ery­thing in this re­la­tion­ship – cook­ing, clean­ing, and pay­ing the bills. What ex­actly is he con­tribut­ing?

A healthy re­la­tion­ship is a part­ner­ship. Both mem­bers pull their weight. Un­less this man is pre­pared to make some se­ri­ous changes, you should move back with your fam­ily. If he can­not make you happy, he’s not the one. Move on ASAP.

– CHRIS­TINE

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