and I have recently moved our family (including my dad) to your country.
Your advice would be welcomed in making this complicated and emotional decision.
Dear Daisy, Your decision is not an easy one, and you have my sympathy. The question you must answer relates to whether your father is aware enough of now, I don’t know what to think. Please give me some advice.
Dear Unsure, First, your concept of settling down is not quite accurate. Once you find your true love, you marry, settle down and start a family. Have you found your true love? I don’t think so. Also, what I am not certain about is if your boyfriend is the father of your son. You keep referring to the child as “my son” rather than “our son”.
That aside, do not allow this man to limit your telephone contact or visits with friends and family. This is a classic sign of an abuser, and so is constantly picking arguments. You appear to be doing everything in this relationship – cooking, cleaning, and paying the bills. What exactly is he contributing?
A healthy relationship is a partnership. Both members pull their weight. Unless this man is prepared to make some serious changes, you should move back with your family. If he cannot make you happy, he’s not the one. Move on ASAP.