Can you swipe happily ever after?
I’ve been here for almost 6 months and I can honestly say I have been on zero dates. It’s not because I don’t want to date or that I am being ridiculously picky. I have come to the conclusion that it is difficult to find a romantic encounter living in such a small town. To speak truth, it is not hard to meet people here at all. Take for granted, the amounts people you meet through work may be ideal for the first few months but you get to a point where seeing them on a daily basis can be frustrating or annoying.
Curiosity gets the best of me
Being a naturally curious person, I am always asking people, “How do you meet someone here?” My track record proves that even before I get the chance to know someone, I always end up making excuses or finding something I don’t like about them. What appeals to me about tinder, is that you must find out as much information you can about them before you can cross them off as potentially datable. Here I also found myself questioning whether it is plausible to date someone that could have already dated your closest friend or even the fact that you can’t really avoid them, say if you found you weren’t interested. On average, most people I have met are either in long term relationships or are really single, and by really single I mean- exploring and finding themselves, taking advantage of the fact they are in a foreign country and are enjoying the possibilities of meeting new people every day. Apart from the old cliché (love at first sight), these couples either moved here together, met the old fashioned way at a bar/ club or most excitingly, have joined the online dating app, Tinder!
Always be mindful, keep your wits about you
We’ve all heard of the horror stories about the creeps and their cheesy pick up lines, but in actual fact, being single and new to a city, this application is a great way to introduce yourself and broaden your network of people that could normally be limited by work events or the regulars at the local hotspots. Tinder gives you the opportunity to potentially “swipe right” and match with that good-looking guy you always see out but was always too afraid to approach. Being a small town, there is a good chance he/she is probably on there.
Are you ready to join Tinder?
Depending on what you are looking for be it some new friends, a potential romantic partner or a good times (one night stand), be honest and up front about it, the person would much appreciate it and it shows your honesty, which is always a great trait to have. Honestly, all you have to remember is that most people could be in the exact same situation as you, wanting to make new friends and meet people, so play nice!
Taking the plunge
I have always wanted to test it out, so on a Friday night after a few drinks with a girlfriend of mine, throw in some drunken courage and lots of laughter, I too became a “swiper” of this literal menu of men.
Easy to get carried away
Signing up was very easy and quite fast (automatically creates a profile from your existing Facebook page), after a quick demo of how to work the app; my first potential date was Sebastian, 34. His profile picture was plain; he wore a white business shirt and somewhat shy smile. What initially intrigued me was how he wasn’t looking directly at the camera, as corny as that sounds that is what attracted me. Just from this one picture all these assumptions flew into my mind. You unconsciously What I’ve learnt from this initial experience is how judgmental this app literally makes you. It makes you more aware and skeptical at the same time, which believe it or not, isn’t a terrible thing. It’s not all bad and not everyone on there is desperate for love and affection. I will admit, it is actually quite handy to meet new people if you are new to a place, but with the connotation with being a dating app, everyone assumes that you would be there for one thing, either companionship or a good time. But that’s not to say you can’t make friends using it either.
Some tips for new TINDERers:
Do not be too judgmental as you’re already on the app, be open to speaking and meeting many interesting people. Just be yourself and enjoy the ride Remember most people on here are most likely interested in the same things you are, people who travel most often have many similarities and interesting stories to share Try to avoid profiles with no profile picture- if they seem seedy, most likely they are Always be careful and mindful if you are going on your first tinder date. Do it in a public place, with heaps of people and start with a coffee, that way its during the day Best of luck swiping, would love to hear your dating or tinder experiences, stay tuned for Part II in our next issue. Be safe and have fun! Peace