Knowledge is Power
All too often people stay in bad relationships out of fear of the alternative. Fear of not having enough money to live. Fear of never finding love again. Fear of having less time with their children. Fear of the unknown. Fear based decisions are never good ones. Knowledge is power and while we never have a crystal ball, relationship decisions can be made a lot easier if we take the steps to gain knowledge to empower ourselves. This can be as simple as setting up a consultation with a family law lawyer to find out about your rights. Many family lawyers offer free 30 minute consultations, but even if you have to pay for the consultation, it can be money well spent. A consultation can clarify for you, what you are likely to gain and lose both financially and with respect to your children if you walk away from a relationship. Acquiring this knowledge can better help you make a decision about what makes the most sense for you. The consultation is confidential, so your partner doesn't even need to know that you spoke to a lawyer unless you want him or her to know. Most importantly, a consultation will help alleviate your fears, put to bed any misinformation you have heard, and if you ultimately plan to leave, it can provide you will a valuable plan or roadmap to put you in the best position possible after separation. In addition, a consultation doesn't obligate you to do anything. You are empowered by having the knowledge of your rights, but you don't have to make any changes unless you choose to do so. Divorce is one of life's most stressful events, and part of what contributes to the stress is uncertainty. This is what keeps so many people trapped in unhealthy relationships. While a family lawyer can't tell you whether you will find love again (and chances are you probably will), a lawyer can answer many of the other questions surrounding the uncertainty of divorce so that you can empower yourself and live your best life.
Leanne Townsend, Family Lawyer & Life Coach B.A., B.Ed., LL.B.