After tossing the relationship, get rid of stuff
I have been dating my (probably ex) girlfriend for more than 11 years.
After she had a run of financial problems, I helped by storing a lot of her furniture and personal property at my house. I helped a little bit with her bills, helped her move, took in a couple of her cats — and many other things — because I was her boyfriend and believed I was being a good person to help her.
I’ve done these things, even though when I need help, emotional support, or some form of thank you, I never receive anything. For instance, I got a two-word text message for my birthday.
Now she is starting to ghost me after I asked for some of my money back.
How long should I hold on to her things before I call a thrift store and have it hauled off? firstname.lastname@example.org
This year marks my 25th wedding anniversary with my wife.
Our marriage has been quite tumultuous, and we have come close to ending it, but we have stayed together “for the sake of the kids.”
I’ve kept our marriage going (which has been a regret) for most of the last 20 years. My wife has put up this facade of happiness for many years and my two children (17 and 20) know exactly what is happening at this point.
I threw my wife a surprise 40th birthday party and have always remembered her on holidays — even if we were fighting at the time. However, whenever I attempt to make plans to celebrate these special occasions (including planning a trip to Europe for this anniversary), my wife finds an excuse not to participate.
Should I treat this anniversary like any other and buy my wife a piece of jewellery, or should I corner her and insist that she do something special?
I was shocked and saddened by “Feeling the Creepiness,” who was creeped-out by her neighbour visiting the elderly and infirm. I volunteer for a hospice. My patients are in assisted living and I spend at least an hour every week visiting them.
These are not creepy, old people. They are parents, college professors, doctors, homemakers, business people, craftsmen and labourers, pioneers in space exploration and computer engineering. They are people with fascinating stories to tell and deep hunger for connection with other humans. I suggest “Creepiness” reach out by accompanying her neighbour on her visits. I guarantee she will find some wonderful people there.