AMy dick­in­son

Calgary Sun - - NEWS - — Face­book Fu­ri­ous — em­bar­rassed

askamy@amy­dick­in­son.com

My hus­band and I have been to­gether for more than 25 years.

Two years ago my hus­band got a mes­sage on his phone while he was driv­ing. He asked me to look at it. I got on his phone and it was a Face­book mes­sage from our son. But I also saw an­other mes­sage ex­change be­tween my hus­band and an ex­girl­friend of his from col­lege.

When I read it (with him sit­ting right next to me), I was shocked and an­gry. I read the mes­sage out loud at his re­quest. He de­nied that it was him, and of course, was ag­i­tated that I had found it.

The woman asks what he was up to, and states she is di­vorced. Then she sug­gested they meet up and go to a foot­ball game soon to catch up. She re­ferred to his pre­vi­ous di­vorce. But my hus­band made no men­tion of me or our kids, and replied that he had a busi­ness trip com­ing up in the area she lived in.

Now, he had promised to take me on that trip with him, he ended up mak­ing some ex­cuse about why I couldn’t go this time. (I found this Face­book en­try after that trip.)

I asked him to tell the truth, and also to un­friend this woman on FB. He con­tin­ues to deny that he ever wrote that mes­sage and that he ever met up with her.

Since the in­ci­dent two years ago, I can’t even face sleep­ing with him with­out think­ing about this.

I have just found yet an­other old girl­friend he has been say­ing sweet things to, and I am heart­bro­ken and fu­ri­ous.

He doesn’t know I have found the lat­est mes­sages yet. I’m not sure if he is just FB flirt­ing or if he is se­ri­ously looking for some­one else.

I have been putting money away to be pre­pared for any­thing that comes next, but I love him. I am also re­al­is­tic, and un­der­stand that he may not love me or care about “us” any­more. Any ad­vice?

off the lim­i­ta­tions that ex­ist in your mind and ex­er­cise the free­dom you have to achieve great things in your life. cov­ered many costs that we should have shared.

When they vis­ited us in the U.S., we took them to din­ner.

At din­ner I wanted to of­fer apolo­gies and re­im­burse them, but my hus­band was adamantly against it.

Now, three years later there is much an­i­mos­ity to­ward us, which is un­der­stand­able. Is it too late to is­sue my apol­ogy and try to re­im­burse the rel­a­tive? How should I pro­ceed?

“Stand fast there­fore in the lib­erty by which Christ has made us free.” Gala­tians 5:1

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from Canada

© PressReader. All rights reserved.