My husband and I have been together for more than 25 years.
Two years ago my husband got a message on his phone while he was driving. He asked me to look at it. I got on his phone and it was a Facebook message from our son. But I also saw another message exchange between my husband and an exgirlfriend of his from college.
When I read it (with him sitting right next to me), I was shocked and angry. I read the message out loud at his request. He denied that it was him, and of course, was agitated that I had found it.
The woman asks what he was up to, and states she is divorced. Then she suggested they meet up and go to a football game soon to catch up. She referred to his previous divorce. But my husband made no mention of me or our kids, and replied that he had a business trip coming up in the area she lived in.
Now, he had promised to take me on that trip with him, he ended up making some excuse about why I couldn’t go this time. (I found this Facebook entry after that trip.)
I asked him to tell the truth, and also to unfriend this woman on FB. He continues to deny that he ever wrote that message and that he ever met up with her.
Since the incident two years ago, I can’t even face sleeping with him without thinking about this.
I have just found yet another old girlfriend he has been saying sweet things to, and I am heartbroken and furious.
He doesn’t know I have found the latest messages yet. I’m not sure if he is just FB flirting or if he is seriously looking for someone else.
I have been putting money away to be prepared for anything that comes next, but I love him. I am also realistic, and understand that he may not love me or care about “us” anymore. Any advice?
off the limitations that exist in your mind and exercise the freedom you have to achieve great things in your life. covered many costs that we should have shared.
When they visited us in the U.S., we took them to dinner.
At dinner I wanted to offer apologies and reimburse them, but my husband was adamantly against it.
Now, three years later there is much animosity toward us, which is understandable. Is it too late to issue my apology and try to reimburse the relative? How should I proceed?
“Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free.” Galatians 5:1