Man re­fuses to be in the same room as ‘De­mon Spawn’ niece

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ear An­nie: I am the only boy in my fam­ily. I have one older and two younger sis­ters. One of my sis­ters has a daugh­ter (my niece), whom I will call “De­mon Spawn” to pro­tect the in­no­cent.

De­mon Spawn has al­ways lived up to her name. When she was very young, she would tor­ment my two sons un­til they be­came so fed up that they would de­fend them­selves, which al­ways got them into trou­ble, much to her de­light. She would ver­bally tor­ment and abuse my wife at fam­ily gath­er­ings af­ter I left the room. I once stayed near the door­way and heard it all. I ex­ploded in anger, but she was for­given, as al­ways, be­cause she had a “rough life grow­ing up.” That’s a lot of baloney.

She once had my mother cosign for fur­ni­ture that mom ended up pay­ing for, not to men­tion the time she stole money and a credit card from my mother’s purse.

Even­tu­ally, De­mon Spawn had two kids, but she never mar­ried.

DShe went on wel­fare, gave up her kids, got into meth and ended up in prison. Just be­fore she was re­leased, I told my mother that I refuse to be in the same house with her, es­pe­cially with my two young grand­chil­dren present.

Well, De­mon Spawn man­aged to con­vince my mother to let her back into the fam­ily, claim­ing she’s changed. I don’t be­lieve it for one minute. My wife and I and my son and grand­kids didn’t at­tend our fam­ily Thanks­giv­ing or Christ­mas din­ner be­cause she was present. It ap­pears that my mother, know­ing how I feel, has picked De­mon Spawn over her only son. This girl is pure evil, and I want no part of her. How do I get my mother to see the light? — Hurt

Dear Hurt: When you is­sue ul­ti­ma­tums, you must be will­ing to ac­cept the con­se­quences. Mom un­doubt­edly be­lieves you will be OK without her be­cause you have a fam­ily sup­port struc­ture of your own. Your niece, how­ever, has no one to help her. She may be a to­tal mess, but your mother still cares about her. We hope Ms. Spawn ac­tu­ally has changed, but if not, please don’t make your mother more mis­er­able than she’s go­ing to be.

Dear An­nie: When you spend your va­ca­tion stay­ing with friends at their home, what is the proper eti­quette re­gard­ing tak­ing them out for din­ner, buy­ing gro­ceries, pay­ing ad­mis­sion to area at­trac­tions, etc.?

When friends or fam­ily stay with us, we try to have food on hand that they like, and we of­ten treat them to restau­rant meals and tick­ets and ad­mis­sion fees. Af­ter all, they spent a good amount of money trav­el­ling to see us.

We love our guests, en­joy their vis­its and want them to have a good time, but it can get ex­pen­sive. What are the guide­lines? — Happy Host With a Sad Pock­et­book

Dear Host: You should pro­vide your guests with meals at home, or sup­ply food to which they can help them­selves. Con­sid­er­ate guests who stay for a week­end or longer should treat their hosts to at least one meal (or gro­ceries or some form of en­ter­tain­ment). You are not ob­li­gated to buy tick­ets or ad­mis­sion fees. Nor do you need to re­ar­range your sched­ule and drive them around un­less you want to. Guests should en­joy vis­it­ing with you, and you should not go broke hav­ing them.

Dear An­nie: You’ve men­tioned how im­por­tant it is for peo­ple to have a cur­rent will. A friend of mine re­cently passed away. He was a smart guy and had all of his af­fairs in or­der. But his com­puter had a pass­word, as did his email, busi­ness con­tacts, fi­nan­cial records and so­cial net­work­ing sites. There were quite a few peo­ple his fam­ily couldn’t con­tact be­cause they didn’t know the pass­word.

In ad­di­tion to the will and ar­range­ments, please tell your read­ers to leave a record of their elec­tronic in­for­ma­tion with a fam­ily mem­ber or an at­tor­ney. — Con­cerned in Canada

Dear Canada: Ex­cel­lent and timely in­for­ma­tion. Thank you.

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