There are ways to keep your sweetheart sweet
Have you even noticed that it’s easier to find a sweetheart than to keep a sweetheart sweet? When it comes to finding a partner it seems that it’s easier to obtain a person to walk with you than it is to maintain a relationship long term.
The problem for most couples is they lack the willingness to put forth the effort that it takes to keep the sweet in their sweetheart.
I have discovered that it’s possible to be saying the right thing but acting the wrong way. When your words are spoken with anger, loudness, and meant to be cutting, it doesn’t matter how right you are, you are destroying the one you have committed to love and respect.
Ephesians 5:33: “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Let me say it this way, woman love to be loved and men love being respected. When you act unloving to your wife it hurts her deeply and when you disrespect your husband he feels crushed.
For men, respect is a big deal and for women being loved is a major deal. Women think in terms that everything is connected to everything else where men think in boxes. For a man the stuff in one box has nothing to do with the stuff in the other boxes. Men have a nothing box where they can be thinking about nothing. A woman can ask a man what he’s thinking about and he can say nothing. She can’t understand this because she does not own, nor does she want to buy a nothing box.
Joyce Myers said that women live in the land of “Hint” but men seldom go there. If a couple is out for a drive and the woman says, ‘It’s a hot, sunny day and a good day for an ice cream.’ The man says, ‘Do you want me to stop the car and get you an ice cream?’ She says, ‘Oh no, that’s alright you don’t have to stop if you don’t want to.’ If the man is not smart enough to have caught the hint and passes a store that sells ice cream, there is going to be major trouble over a minor problem.
A woman can feel that if her man loves her then he will be willing to listen to her problems. A man feels if a woman is saying that there’s a problem then he wants to gain her respect by fixing the problem. She is not wanting someone to fix things but only to listen and show you care.
This idea of listening without fixing can make a man frustrated. There are lots of relationship truths in the Bible but many people spend all their time fighting with each other rather than learning how God can give them a beautiful life together. It’s like they walked down the aisle on their wedding day and left their minds at the altar. Why don’t you come back to church and find out how to do what you agreed to do when you said I do.
Jesus paid a great price to purchase you and to offer you a life worth living. If you can learn how to love and respect each other the way Jesus teaches us to do, then divorce lawyers would be out of work.
I pray for all the sweethearts today to have the power of His presence to direct your life and destroy your problems.
God bless you all.