Unruly real estate agents
Dear Annie: The real estate agent who sold me my home nine years ago periodically phones my house, asking whether I plan on selling, and offering his assistance. We have a courteous, professional relationship. I never had a problem with him or his company.
Recently, I was a guest at a large customer appreciation event sponsored by this real estate company. I sat quietly by myself. One of the company’s main employees ridiculed me loudly, making a spectacle of me, pointing me out to others, making fun of my looks and my hair. I am a neat, clean, conservative senior citizen. She even walked past me and laughed loudly in my face. I had never met this woman before. I was so horrified that I said nothing and left.
I do plan on selling my home. However, after my horrific treatment at the "customer appreciation" event, I will not be using that real estate company. If my former real estate agent asks me why I have listed my home with another company, what should I tell him? No number of promotional events will ever bring back a customer who has been so terribly mistreated by an employee. — Ridiculed in Rapid City
Dear Ridiculed: We cannot imagine any company allowing an employee to behave like this in front of potential clients. Was she drunk? Are you certain she worked there? Did others notice?
Please don’t wait until the real estate agent contacts you. Call him or his company and report this incident. Explain exactly what happened and give as many details as possible. They need to know that this woman is out of control and is costing them business.
Dear Annie: A few months ago, my niece announced her wedding date for next summer. She selected the wedding dress and the venue and put down deposits.
The couple recently decided they cannot live apart and had a small civil ceremony with only their parents present. They have announced that they will still have the full wedding next year for the rest of their family and friends.
While we have not seen any invitations yet (it’s early), we are not sure how to handle a gift for a wedding that is a year after the actual ceremony. I would prefer to send the couple a gift now to help them start their married life together, but I wouldn’t then send a second gift in a year.
I’m also not sure I will attend the second wedding, since it’s so long after the fact. It seems inappropriate. Tell me, Annie, is this how weddings are done these days? — Confused Family Member
Dear Confused: No. Most weddings are still done in a more traditional fashion, although, we admit, there seem to be many more variations these days. Nonetheless, if invited, you are obligated only for one wedding gift, whether you send it now or later. (Either is fine.) And please don’t judge the couple so harshly by not attending the second wedding. Think of it instead as a big party to celebrate their marital bliss and enjoy yourself.
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