Un­ruly real es­tate agents

Cape Breton Post - - IN MEMORIAM / TV HIGHLIGHTS / ADVICE - Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear An­nie: The real es­tate agent who sold me my home nine years ago pe­ri­od­i­cally phones my house, ask­ing whether I plan on selling, and of­fer­ing his as­sis­tance. We have a cour­te­ous, pro­fes­sional re­la­tion­ship. I never had a prob­lem with him or his com­pany.

Re­cently, I was a guest at a large cus­tomer ap­pre­ci­a­tion event spon­sored by this real es­tate com­pany. I sat qui­etly by my­self. One of the com­pany’s main em­ploy­ees ridiculed me loudly, mak­ing a spec­ta­cle of me, point­ing me out to oth­ers, mak­ing fun of my looks and my hair. I am a neat, clean, con­ser­va­tive se­nior citizen. She even walked past me and laughed loudly in my face. I had never met this woman be­fore. I was so hor­ri­fied that I said noth­ing and left.

I do plan on selling my home. How­ever, af­ter my hor­rific treat­ment at the "cus­tomer ap­pre­ci­a­tion" event, I will not be us­ing that real es­tate com­pany. If my for­mer real es­tate agent asks me why I have listed my home with another com­pany, what should I tell him? No num­ber of pro­mo­tional events will ever bring back a cus­tomer who has been so ter­ri­bly mis­treated by an em­ployee. — Ridiculed in Rapid City

Dear Ridiculed: We can­not imag­ine any com­pany al­low­ing an em­ployee to be­have like this in front of po­ten­tial clients. Was she drunk? Are you cer­tain she worked there? Did oth­ers no­tice?

Please don’t wait un­til the real es­tate agent con­tacts you. Call him or his com­pany and re­port this in­ci­dent. Ex­plain ex­actly what hap­pened and give as many de­tails as pos­si­ble. They need to know that this woman is out of con­trol and is cost­ing them busi­ness.

Dear An­nie: A few months ago, my niece an­nounced her wed­ding date for next sum­mer. She se­lected the wed­ding dress and the venue and put down de­posits.

The cou­ple re­cently de­cided they can­not live apart and had a small civil cer­e­mony with only their par­ents present. They have an­nounced that they will still have the full wed­ding next year for the rest of their fam­ily and friends.

While we have not seen any in­vi­ta­tions yet (it’s early), we are not sure how to han­dle a gift for a wed­ding that is a year af­ter the ac­tual cer­e­mony. I would pre­fer to send the cou­ple a gift now to help them start their mar­ried life to­gether, but I wouldn’t then send a sec­ond gift in a year.

I’m also not sure I will at­tend the sec­ond wed­ding, since it’s so long af­ter the fact. It seems in­ap­pro­pri­ate. Tell me, An­nie, is this how wed­dings are done these days? — Con­fused Fam­ily Mem­ber

Dear Con­fused: No. Most wed­dings are still done in a more tra­di­tional fash­ion, although, we ad­mit, there seem to be many more vari­a­tions these days. Nonethe­less, if in­vited, you are ob­li­gated only for one wed­ding gift, whether you send it now or later. (Ei­ther is fine.) And please don’t judge the cou­ple so harshly by not at­tend­ing the sec­ond wed­ding. Think of it in­stead as a big party to celebrate their mar­i­tal bliss and en­joy your­self.

An­nie’s Mail­box is writ­ten by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, long­time ed­i­tors of the Ann Lan­ders col­umn. Please email your ques­tions to an­nies­mail­box @cre­ators.com, or write to: An­nie’s Mail­box, c/o Cre­ators Syn­di­cate, 737 3rd Street, Her­mosa Beach, CA 90254. You can also find An­nie on Face­book at Face­book.com/AskAn­nies. Visit the Cre­ators Syn­di­cate Web page at www.cre­ators.com. COPY­RIGHT 2015 CRE­ATORS.COM

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