Fam­ily’s food is­sues hard to swal­low

Edmonton Sun - - LIFE - Amy DICK­IN­SON

Dear amy: My wife and I have a blended fam­ily. We both have adult chil­dren from previous mar­riages, and these chil­dren have chil­dren of their own.

Food seems to be our only is­sue. The chil­dren have mixed nu­tri­tional wants: One won’t eat meat, an­other fish, one is vege­tar­ian and an­other fam­ily is ve­gan. Their chil­dren seem to be om­ni­vores. Dur­ing fam­ily gath­er­ings at our home, we try and ac­com­mo­date ev­ery­one’s pref­er­ence, but it can be dif­fi­cult, as no one is will­ing to budge off their own diet.

How­ever, when we visit their homes, they serve only what they eat and do not take into con­sid­er­a­tion our pref­er­ences. If they are ve­gan, we eat ve­gan.

It seems to be a one-way food street, with us try­ing to go in both direc­tions. It can get frus­trat­ing, to say the least.

I’d like to say some­thing to ev­ery­one in­volved, but I don’t know how with­out caus­ing dis­cord. Do you have any sug­ges­tions on how to keep ev­ery­one happy? Or, is this not pos­si­ble?

— NOT Quite Nour­ished

Dear Not Quite Nour­ished: con­fronting this shouldn’t be an in­sur­mount­able chal­lenge, ex­cept that you are go­ing to have to aban­don the idea of keep­ing ev­ery­one happy.

these adults are re­spon­si­ble for their own happiness. you only need to rus­tle up some chow.

the sim­plest so­lu­tion is for you to of­fer a ve­gan meal to all dur­ing these group meals. this is the most re­stric­tive diet, and ev­ery­one can eat ve­gan food (cer­tainly for one meal).

Oth­er­wise, as­sign dishes. Send an email to all of the off­spring: “We’re hav­ing trou­ble keep­ing up with ev­ery­one’s di­ets. So we’ll pro­vide meat (and/or fish), roasted po­ta­toes, and bev­er­ages. can­dace, can you bring a ve­gan dish and a fruit salad to share? Vic­to­ria, can you bring a vege­tar­ian or ve­gan casse­role? bradley, please bring dessert?”

and then yes, when you are at their house, you should eat what they serve.

if you need or want to eat meat at the ve­gan or vege­tar­ian fam­ily’s house, then you can bring a dish to sup­ple­ment what they are of­fer­ing.

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