RE­LI­GION ON THE RUN­WAY

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pul­pit and the pew.” Even the pope, voted TIME mag­a­zine’s 2013 Per­son of the Year, is on board, spread­ing his mes­sage to more than 4.5 mil­lion Twit­ter fol­low­ers.

But while th­ese vir­tual tools are neat, peo­ple fi­nally seem to be at­tuned to the idea that in- per­son con­nec­tions are miss­ing in their lives. I know I am. It both­ers me that I don’t know any of my neigh­bours and that my barista, the only lo­cal I see reg­u­larly, still gets my name wrong. I like chat­ting with Face­book friends, but they won’t come over and feed my cat when I’m on va­ca­tion or bring me soup when I’m sick. “I don’t think the In­ter­net can take the place of com­mu­ni­ties that can build the re­silience that we need in times of change and chaos,” says Vosper.

Kee­gan started Full Cir­cle after a se­ries of bizarre hap­pen­ings, in­clud­ing see­ing a street light ex­plode and wit­ness­ing a rose-quartz crys­tal spon­ta­neously jump off an al­tar. My mys­tic ex­pe­ri­ence, although less dra­matic, also ig­nited a spir­i­tual cu­rios­ity I didn’t even know I had. Now, like so many, I’m crav­ing a place to think and talk about what it all means. Ul­ti­mately, I think lots of us are try­ing not only to be bet­ter but to be bet­ter. “It comes down to this ques­tion: How am I go­ing to live?” says Vosper. “You feed your­self ev­ery time you re­flect on how to ex­ist in re­la­tion­ships with your fam­ily, your neigh­bours and even strangers.” Now that’s some­thing I can be­lieve in. ■ In the past, we’ve seen re­li­gion used in fash­ion as a provoca­tive way of push­ing bound­aries. But th­ese days, the sa­cred sen­si­bil­i­ties that are ap­pear­ing on run­ways mod­estly echo what trend fore­caster Lidewij Edelkoort sees as a new de­sire for “or­di­nary spir­i­tu­al­ity.” Both Derek Lam and Pra­bal Gu­rung took in­spi­ra­tion from monks’ habits— think as­cetic-in­spired deep crim­son, robes and vo­lu­mi­nous shapes.

After all, even Chanel cre­ative di­rec­tor Karl Lager­feld—who has de­scribed him­self as a “fash­ion mis­sion­ary”—has preached about the fash­ion sen­si­bil­i­ties of the pope. (In case you were won­der­ing, the Chanel cre­ative di­rec­tor has chris­tened Pope Pius XII with the ti­tle “most chic.”)

In fact, Thom Browne’s fall/win­ter 2014 col­lec­tion was dis­played inside a cus­tom-built church in a Chelsea gallery, com­plete with al­tar boys, a choir and wooden pews from which spec­ta­tors could bear wit­ness. The can­dle-and-in­cense-filled space was a the­atri­cal back­ground for Browne’s stiff, struc­tured sil­hou­ettes—a no­tice­ably-toned-down col­lec­tion. Just think of it as re­li­gious norm­core.

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gave to Kim Kar­dashian: a what-was-he-think­ing Birkin bag fea­tur­ing a por­trait of nude women (and a green mon­ster!) hand-painted by famed artist George Condo. So­cial Cog­ni­tion pub­lished the re­sults of an ex­per­i­ment con­ducted by Univer­sity of Bri­tish Columbia psy­chol­o­gist El­iz­a­beth Dunn and co-au­thors that tested how men and women re­act to re­ceiv­ing a ques­tion­able gift from their part­ners. They found that when guys re­ceived an un­de­sir­able gift from their girl­friend (like a cer­tifi­cate to a dis­count depart­ment store in­stead of their favourite book­store), it made them feel “less sim­i­lar” to their girl­friend and they re­ported that the fu­ture of the re­la­tion­ship was more un­cer­tain. Sur­pris­ingly, women re­ported the ex­act op­po­site after open­ing a bad gift. The ex­pla­na­tion, ac­cord­ing to the re­searchers? Women try to down­play neg­a­tive pub­lic sig­nals about the qual­ity of their re­la­tion­ship by tak­ing on a more h

68%up­beat at­ti­tude. (“At least he got me a gift….”)

While we all want to find a present our part­ner will love, we also need to pick some­thing ap­pro­pri­ate for the stage that our re­la­tion­ship is at. A re­cent Match.com survey found that most Cana­di­ans think that you should only get some­one a hol­i­day gift if you’ve been dat­ing for over a month and that you should spend be­tween $50 and $75. Once you’ve been se­ri­ous for at least six months, ex­pect to spend $75 or more.

“If you haven’t been to­gether long, fo­cus on your new part­ner’s hob­bies and the fun things you’ve shared,” says shop­ping ex­pert Lisa Tant, who is also vice-pres­i­dent of ex­clu­sive ser­vices for Holt Ren­frew. “Cre­ate an ex­pe­ri­ence, like a night out at the movies or a cer­tifi­cate to a wine bar.” For a long-time love, Tant sug­gests that part­ners swap lists of hints, like re­minders of favourite sweets or go-to de­sign­ers (Louboutin, per­haps?) and also in­clude sizes. “My part­ner loves it when I help him, and then ev­ery­one is happy,” she says. FOR YOUR BEST FRIENDS… When you have shared clothes, se­crets and too many episodes of Girls, the gift­giv­ing bar is set pretty high. Up your game by go­ing for a gift that they’ll use ev­ery day—like a clas­sic school­boy blazer—in­stead of a spe­cial-oc­ca­sions-only item. In a 2014 pa­per pub­lished in the Jour­nal of Con­sumer Re­search, ex­per­i­menters se­lected pairs of friends and asked one to gift the other with ei­ther a high-sta­tus or a more prac­ti­cal present. The gift-giver usu­ally pre­ferred to give the fancier choice, while the re­ceiver was usu­ally hap­pier to get the sen­si­ble op­tion. What’s more, the re­cip­i­ent thought the prac­ti­cal gift in­di­cated that the giver cared more about her.

Still, Tant notes, gifts are meant to be in­dul­gent. “Es­pe­cially if the re­cip­i­ent rarely treats her­self,” she says. She ad­vises choos­ing some­thing lux­u­ri­ous that you know the per­son will use: If your best friend loves sport­ing a red lip but sticks to a drug­store brand, get her a clas­sic Chanel tube. FOR YOUR EX­TENDED FAM­ILY… A good gift can help ease ten­sions when fam­i­lies (and spiked eggnog) get to­gether. A 2014 study in the Jour­nal of Con­sumer Re­search con­cluded that when we shop for mul­ti­ple re­cip­i­ents, we fo­cus on get­ting each per­son a unique gift in­stead of get­ting them what they’d like most. Ac­cord­ing to the study, dif­fer­ent gifts may seem more thought­ful to us, but it doesn’t mean that they’ll be more ap­pre­ci­ated. For ex­am­ple, your cousin may not FOR YOUR WORK COL­LEAGUES… Like it or not, most of us spend more time with our co-work­ers than with our part­ners (un­less, of course, you’ve hooked up with some­one at work—no judg­ment). Sphe­rion, a staffing company, sur­veyed over 900 em­ploy­ees on their gift-giv­ing habits. Fifty-two per­cent of peo­ple planned to give gifts at work, whether to their co-work­ers (36 per­cent), boss (27 per­cent) or staff (9 per­cent). When giv­ing to co-work­ers, 58 per­cent of re­spon­dents said they had never spent more than $25 on a gift. Be­fore you buy some­thing for the higher-ups, note that the majority of peo­ple felt that presents were given in or­der to “suck up.” Fif­teen per­cent of men (and 6 per­cent of women) even con­fessed to spend­ing more on a boss’ present to out­shine co-work­ers.

Tant’s ap­proach is to give small but thought­ful gifts to co-work­ers and man­agers. “I try to find out their favourite sweet or savoury treat and then add a heart­felt note. Giv­ing a large or ex­pen­sive gift is in­ap­pro­pri­ate and makes ev­ery­one feel un­com­fort­able,” she says.

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