Headed ( nervously) to the altar? ask yourself these 5 questions
Why are you getting hitched? There is a wide variety of good answers here. There are also some distinctly bad ones, like: you need to get married, you’re terrified of being alone or you don’t feel secure without a partner. Are you choosing between getting hitched now and breaking up? This is red-flag city. Sometimes people get married to resuscitate a relationship that should actually end. Have you discussed what marriage will be like with your partner? Oftentimes these expectations are unspoken. If this subject feels too awkward to bring up, that’s a bad sign. Are you anxious about the wedding or the marriage? Weddings are stressful times, and having “cold feet” is common. Nerves over the catering are normal—nerves about the rest of your life might not be. Are you hoping for change after the big day? For some, that piece of paper means there’s no turning back and they’ll either make more effort or (more likely) less. But for most of us, things won’t change much.