Chrissy Metz on the life-chang­ing magic of ask­ing your­self “Why?”

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ThisIsUs star Chrissy Metz on how she’s cop­ing with her new-found fame.

CHRISSY METZ IS ABOUT to head into her cos­tume fit­ting for the penul­ti­mate episode of the sec­ond sea­son of This Is Us. While she has com­plete faith in the show’s wardrobe depart­ment, the Florida na­tive does, how­ever, feel like she has been play­ing her char­ac­ter on the wildly h

pop­u­lar, crit­i­cally beloved, rip-your-heart-out-with-all-the-feels fam­ily drama long enough to have some in­put.

“Hala [Bah­met] and her team usu­ally hit the nail on the head, but there are times when I’m like, ‘Oh, this might be a bit too old or too young for Kate,’” the 37-year-old tells us over the phone from Los An­ge­les, which is where she lives and the show shoots. Her char­ac­ter, who has strug­gled with low self-es­teem, is fi­nally giv­ing her mu­sic dream a go this sea­son, and Metz has loved watch­ing the “nu­anced” way that that blos­som­ing is mir­rored in her wardrobe choices. “Kate’s com­ing into her own, so she’s wear­ing more dresses, more colour, more prints,” says Metz. “She’s fi­nally feel­ing con­fi­dent enough to draw at­ten­tion to her­self through cloth­ing. Per­son­ally, I’ve never cared about that, no mat­ter what size I was.” You’ve been on a crazy ride for the past two years, go­ing from a to­tal un­known to a dou­ble Golden Globe nom­i­nee. Is there any­thing 2018 Chrissy wishes she could tell the 2016 ver­sion of you? “If any­thing, it would be to sit with my­self more and ask my­self what my in­ten­tions are be­hind why I’m do­ing things. I’d draw more bound­aries. Like, ‘You can do this or that but at what ex­pense? Who or what is it for?’ I think ev­ery­one can re­late to that, whether you feel like you have to buy a dress to look a cer­tain way or you’re a mom who feels like her child’s birth­day party has to be the most ex­trav­a­gant thing. We’re all do­ing the best we can, but some­times our in­ten­tions can get mud­dled by our egos.” How do you get clear on in­ten­tion? “I ask my­self ‘Does it serve me, my ca­reer or char­ity? Does it serve a greater pur­pose?’ When you sit with those ques­tions—re­ally sit with them—the an­swers start to come a lit­tle eas­ier and you re­al­ize ‘Oh, that’s why this feels good or doesn’t feel good.’” Has say­ing “no” to things come with age? “I have got­ten bet­ter at un­der­stand­ing that ‘no’ is a com­plete sen­tence, but I’m still work­ing on it. My thing is, I’m so­cial, I like to go out, but I also have a job, and I have a re­spon­si­bil­ity to show up and be pre­pared. Some­times it’s easy to say no to do­ing the fun stuff, some­times it’s re­ally dif­fi­cult. One of the gals on my team said to me re­cently, ‘Chrissy, if it doesn’t make you happy, don’t do it,’ and I thought, ‘Oh, what a con­cept!’ I don’t have to please ev­ery­body, be­cause even­tu­ally it won’t serve any­body if I’m re­sent­ful and unhappy with my choices.” What part of your job do you work hardest at? “Do­ing press is prob­a­bly more tax­ing than the ac­tual show. On­set, you’re just so sup­ported and loved; it’s not that it’s eas­ier, but it’s com­fort­able. The press and pro­mot­ing [the show] can get re­ally over­whelm­ing.” Why is that? “At awards shows, for in­stance, it’s fun and ex­cit­ing, but it’s also a 10- or 12-hour day. You’re do­ing mul­ti­ple in­ter­views. Peo­ple aren’t nec­es­sar­ily judg­ing you, but it’s all about what you’re wear­ing and why you’re wear­ing it. I love peo­ple, but it can be a lot if you haven’t had enough sleep or you haven’t med­i­tated. I’m just one per­son. I’m also an em­path, so meet­ing peo­ple and hear­ing their sto­ries can make it hard to hold emo­tional space for my­self. Peo­ple need some­body to con­nect to, and I can’t be like, ‘Nope! I don’t want to hear about it.’” Have the red car­pets—and the vibe of the in­dus­try in gen­eral—changed at all in this age of #MeToo and #TimesUp? “There has been a shift in con­scious­ness. Peo­ple are get­ting away from what was never re­ally im­por­tant to what re­ally is, and that’s equal­ity for all peo­ple. No­body is su­pe­rior to any­body, no mat­ter their race, age, weight, so­cial sta­tus...what­ever. There’s a change in that op­por­tu­ni­ties are be­ing made for women by other women. There’s this lov­ing ca­ma­raderie that’s un­spo­ken but un­der­stood. That’s why we’re here on this plane of ex­is­tence: to help one an­other, to grow one an­other. Times are chang­ing, and it’s ex­cit­ing.” n


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