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I strongly be­lieve that the next phase of the fem­i­nist move­ment should fo­cus on men— not as a way to de­tract from the con­cerns of women but as a way to prop­erly ad­dress them. All gen­ders stand to gain from gen­der equal­ity, yet not all are ex­pected to be ac­tive par­tic­i­pants in it. We equate gen­der equal­ity with women, omit­ting the fact that men have a gen­der too. We don’t pay at­ten­tion to the way they are so­cial­ized as much as we have scru­ti­nized the mes­sages we send to women and girls. It’s time to chal­lenge men to call out their own cul­ture and be­hav­iour for the ben­e­fit of all peo­ple. I like to en­gage with men us­ing what I call the ques­tion method: lead­ing them to their own an­swers with a set of ques­tions that pushes them to ex­plain their sex­ist be­liefs. It’s kind of like a fem­i­nist Jedi mind trick. For ex­am­ple: Man: “Why are you even a fem­i­nist?” Woman: “Why don’t you con­sider your­self a fem­i­nist?” Put the onus on haters to ex­plain their per­spec­tive, not on your­self to de­fend it.

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