He Said

Gripped - - NOTES FROM THE TOP -

Some call it a night­mare, some call it a dream and some just say it’s nec­es­sary. Climb­ing with your girlfr iend or wife can be a great thing or a dis­as­ter. It can br ing out the worst in both of you. The same less-than-per­fect be­lay your fr iend gives you will make you mad if it’s by your part­ner. Not to men­tion be­ing a gi­ant wimp when she is be­lay­ing.

I be­lieve that in a long-ter m re­la­tion­ship, the women you’re with br ings out the best in you. You are the best ver­sion of your­self when around that spe­cial some­one. That com­pletely goes out the win­dow as soon as you are both at­tached to the same rope. The ny­lon life­line has a way of brew­ing ten­sion bet ween t wo bet­ter halves. All lov­ing cour­te­sies go straight out the win­dow as soon as there is only a rope, some draws and 20 me­tres of air be­tween you.

When you go climb­ing with a buddy who drops you a bit far­ther than you ex­pected, you br ush it of f like it isn’t any­thing be­cause it isn’t. When your par tner, on the other hand, even sneezes while be­lay­ing you on a dog at­tempt up a route you prob­a­bly shouldn’t be dog­ging you can’t help it and yell, “Hold me there, why are you drop­ping me? Can you please pay more at­ten­tion? ” You be­come a whin­ing baby who makes ex­cuses and gets angr y for no rea­son. Not “real” angr y, just re­la­tion­ship angr y. De­spite how calm and col lected you are on a route, that de­mon wil l sneak up and you wil l say things that land you on the couch for a cou­ple of nights.

For some rea­son your 95- lb. buddy can hold you in place on my project bet­ter than your 110- lb. girlfr iend. Climb­ing can be a ver y in­tense and stress­ful ac­tivit y where emo­tions are f ly­ing out of con­trol. It’s best to take three breaths and re­mind your­self that she is a lways r ight, so don’t arg ue. Just get back on the wall.

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