I Can’t Believe It’s Not Better
A Woman’s Guide to Coping with Life
Red Deer Press
Review by Ly n Cockburn Yes, yes, it’s ever so nice that Special K cereal is serving up ads on our TV and tablet screens featuring skinny, medium and tubby models who are supposed to help us accept ourselves. Better yet, we can read Monica Heisey’s book I Can’t Believe It’s Not Better. We can laugh loudly as we recognize that her foibles are our foibles, as we wearily acknowledge that, although women are often criticized for those foibles, we can sort of accept who we are.We are strong. We can refuse to ever eat Special K cereal again.
From food to Facebook, Heisey offers anecdotes, poetry and, yes, wisdom.Of course, she chooses the problematic topic of food for her first chapter, which contains a marvelous poem titled “A Poem About Cheese.” The poem’s first line is, “Shall I compare Brie to a summer’s day?” She even provides a how-to for eating in bed. “Use a Plate, You Filthy Animal.”
Anxiety about anything and everything plagues many women—whether it’s sometimes, often or most of the time. Heisey advises us to “Turn a negative into a positive by channeling your stress into a decorative rash.” A sketch conveniently accompanies this statement.
This book may not help you to a) accept that you don’t have any faults whatsoever; b) get rid of that annoying partner; c) keep you from begging an annoying partner to come back; or d) banish anxiety once and for all—but it will offer some sound advice on how to stay mildly sane in a world that’s still often tough on women.For example, Heisey says a woman can tell she’s had too much to drink at a party if she’s considering peeing somewhere that is not a bathroom. Indeed, it is in her advice on etiquette that Heisey best sums up life for many women.She writes, “A true lady hides her real-life misandry in upbeat, Web-based humour.”