Why Harry and Meghan need to sign a pre-nup
Should Prince Harry and Meghan Markle sign a prenup?
The only sensible answers to this question are “bloody well right” and “well, duh.” But if a recent story in the Daily Mail is accurate, the bearded royal is not keen on the idea.
“He’s determined that his marriage will be a lasting one, so there’s no need for him to sign anything,” an anonymous friend tells the paper.
It’s a beautiful sentiment. It’s also blisteringly foolish.
Please don’t misunderstand. I am not predicting doom or casting aspersions on the young couple.
I’m hard pressed to think of another celebrity couple that seems more in love at this moment. And this is precisely why Harry and Meghan need a pre-nup.
I have a relationship theory my wife doesn’t let me share at cocktail parties. So I’ll bore you with it now. The basic formula is something like this: if a relationship is powered by raw passion before marriage, that union will be on shakier ground than observers might reasonably predict.
Passion fades in time, no matter the starting point. So for a marriage to be a “lasting one,” to quote Harry’s friend again, too much passion can actually be a danger. Any possible breakup in the future is inevitably uglier than it should be.
That’s why safeguards, like a pre-nup, can help save a once passionate marriage: It removes material incentives that might otherwise accelerate the collapse. It provides a good reason to keep working on a relationship that is short-circuiting.
So instead of viewing this as a waste of time or an insult to their devotion, Harry and Meghan should see it as a kind of insurance policy in the event their feelings change. In case of irreconcilable di erences, heaven forbid, such an agreement could spare them needless agony in the public eye.
Besides, all they have to do is glance at their own families to realize there are no guarantees in love: they are both children of divorce. The odds of a breakup among us commoners is now about 50 50. It’s a coin toss. The odds get even worse for royals and celebrities. Markle’s irst marriage lasted two years.
Nobody swaps vows expecting to get divorced. But it happens. And if there are assets at play — the Daily Mail estimates Prince Harry is now worth £30 million while Markle will be taking £4 million of her own into marriage in two months — the potential for outright hostility multiplies.
So do the paperwork, you crazy kids. Sign a pre-nup for the peace of mind. Do it for the myriad ways it may fortify your relationship in the years ahead, when the romance goes from boiling to a gentle simmer, and your bodies begin to sag and you’re no longer discovering new things about one another.
Do it for a love so beautiful, it deserves to be protected.
A pre-nup can save a once passionate marriage: It removes material incentives that might otherwise accelerate the collapse.