The Hid­den Costs of Di­vorce

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Reach­ing the de­ci­sion to end a re­la­tion­ship can be chal­leng­ing enough, but of­ten peo­ple find them­selves caught in a drawn-out le­gal process that drains them both emo­tion­ally and fi­nan­cially. It is pos­si­ble to spend tens or even hun­dreds of thou­sands of dol­lars only to end up with lit­tle cer­tainty or sense of progress. The jour­ney towards re­solv­ing fam­ily is­sues is hardly an en­joy­able one, but more op­tions and re­sources ex­ist now than ever be­fore to help reach your des­ti­na­tion.

Why Is Di­vorce So Costly?

Set­ting aside the ob­vi­ous emo­tional na­ture and chal­lenges of in­ter­per­sonal re­la­tion­ships, we are still left with a sys­tem that is ill equipped to meet cur­rent needs. Courts are sim­ply over­whelmed by de­mands and slow to adapt to an in­creas­ingly dig­i­tal world. It’s not only le­gal fees that make it ex­pen­sive, it’s how Fam­ily Law is struc­tured. The Di­vorce Act was writ­ten in 1986, be­fore the first lap­top was in­vented. The process not only has not been stream­lined to ef­fi­ciently func­tion from a dig­i­tal sense, new ways and ap­proaches have not been adopted as it re­lates to in­no­va­tive ideas and strate­gies.

What can you do?

A Di­vorce Con­sul­tant can re­view op­tions and help you ar­rive at cre­ative so­lu­tions to your fam­ily law is­sues. Ser­vices can range from as­sis­tance in iden­ti­fy­ing in­di­vid­ual goals, build­ing ne­go­ti­a­tion skills, through to the ac­tive man­age­ment of the over­all process. They can help you un­der­stand so­lu­tions out­side of the court room and can equip you with knowl­edge and tools to as­sist in ne­go­ti­at­ing di­rectly with your part­ner. Me­di­a­tion can be suc­cess­ful and a cost ef­fec­tive al­ter­na­tive, and a con­sul­tant will en­sure you are pre­pared for a for­ward mov­ing ne­go­ti­a­tion. If lit­i­ga­tion is re­quired, they can help pre­pare you to self-rep­re­sent in court ef­fec­tively or refer you to a lawyer that is the right fit based on your unique needs, bud­get and will stand along-side you to en­sure that you are work­ing ef­fi­ciently to keep the costs down.

The more pre­pared you are for the process and less in­volved you are in the le­gal sys­tem, the lower the cost. Let a Di­vorce Con­sul­tant as­sist you in be­ing fo­cused, in­formed and em­pow­ered. *Trained me­di­a­tors can give le­gal knowl­edge and are not a sub­sti­tute for le­gal ad­vice.

Diane Hors­man, Con­sul­tant and Founder of Bold Con­sult­ing, is a sin­gle mother of two teenage girls. She is a trained me­di­a­tor and ob­tained her Al­ter­na­tive Dis­pute Res­o­lu­tion cer­tifi­cate from York Univer­sity. Diane spe­cial­izes in but is not limited to, sep­a­ra­tions with high con­flict and is com­mit­ted to help­ing in­di­vid­u­als feel em­pow­ered and con­fi­dent through the chal­leng­ing di­vorce process.

Diane Hors­man

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