Noth­ing wrong with morn­ing rou­tine

Montreal Gazette - - DIVERSIONS - AN­NIE LANE

Dear An­nie: I am a woman in my 80s, and I like to sit and en­joy my morn­ing daily cup of tea look­ing out of the up­stairs win­dow of my home. The win­dow faces the street and has vene­tian blinds that I can ad­just hor­i­zon­tally.

One day, a male neigh­bour in his 40s was walk­ing to his car that was parked on the street near the front of my house. He looked up at me and shouted at me to leave my win­dow.

I was sur­prised that he even no­ticed me and that I was yelled at. I have been ner­vous to look out my win­dow ever since.

Is win­dow watch­ing OK?

Win­dow Watch­ing

Dear Win­dow Watch­ing: Don't let some overly para­noid and rude man ruin your morn­ing rit­ual. As­sum­ing you don't have a pair of binoc­u­lars and are not dis­turb­ing any­one, keep look­ing out your win­dow and en­joy­ing your tea. No one has the right to take that away from you. In fact, one could ask what that man was do­ing look­ing up at your win­dow.

Dear An­nie: Af­ter four years of a long-dis­tance re­la­tion­ship, my fi­ancé just moved from his home state to mine. He re­tired, and although he is fi­nan­cially sta­ble, we still have to stay on a bud­get to be able to af­ford our liv­ing ex­penses, fu­ture travel and en­ter­tain­ment. We bud­get how of­ten we can go out to din­ner each week. We even bud­get our drinks.

Be­cause I have lots of sin­gle girl­friends who love him and are ex­cited for me, ev­ery time we go out to meet them for a drink or meal, they don't budge on get­ting their wal­lets out when the bill comes, and my fi­ancé feels ob­li­gated to get the whole bill. How­ever, we are now in a po­si­tion of having to go out less fre­quently or lower the qual­ity of restau­rants we go to.

Do I need to stop see­ing my girl­friends or just meet them alone, where we can split the bill like we used to be­fore he moved here? I just don't know how to not sound cheap but make sure he isn't al­ways stuck with the bill.

Frus­trated at the Sin­gle Gals

Dear Frus­trated: Con­grats on this new chap­ter of your love. If your friends love him that much, why are they treat­ing him like a sugar daddy? I un­der­stand if he wants to be gen­er­ous and pick up the bill a few times, but it is sort of rude of your friends to not even budge on get­ting out their wal­lets. Re­gard­less of gen­der, no one likes to give when they feel the party they are giv­ing to ex­pects it and doesn't ap­pre­ci­ate it.

Per­haps you should just stick to girls' night out and go back to split­ting the bill. If you want your friends to get to know your boyfriend more, maybe have them over to the house, or wait un­til they find their own boyfriends and dou­ble date.

Send your ques­tions for An­nie Lane to dear­an­nie@ cre­ators.com. To find out more about An­nie Lane and read fea­tures by other Cre­ators Syn­di­cate colum­nists and car­toon­ists, visit the Cre­ators Syn­di­cate web­site at www.cre­ators.com.

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