Find your soul goals
A lot of people are focused on what they want to do. They set goals for themselves. Melissa asks: “But where is that coming from? Is that from an internal intrinsic desire, or because you feel like you should be doing it at this time?” Many goals represent more than their finish line—what core values drive them?
For example, anyone who has worked with Melissa or follows her online knows that her personal assistant is a Portuguese water dog named Bali. Bringing Bali into her home was a lifelong goal that represented a larger achievement for Melissa. “To me it was a huge deal because it represented that I was working for myself.”
Melissa organizes goals into two categories: push goals and soul goals. “Certain push goals, you just have to do to get to where you want to go,” she says. “The soul goals are the ones I love working with. These are the ones that aren’t always rational, but they light people up.” This is where Melissa shines. She helps her clients work through the process, realize their dreams, and strategize a plan to reach them. At the same time, it’s not just about the achievement, but the process. An example or a soul goal for Melissa is writing her book. She is currently writing a book about her travels: her experience moving west, what it took to realize that dream, and to do it as a single woman.