Self-help book, Af­ter the Flow­ers Die launches in Moose Jaw

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A Side: Delores Perry & Stan Gard­ner Marge Gard­ner & Ir­win Manske

B Side: Milly Mol­loy & Maria McKay Leona Dun­can & Bob Ariss Af­ter los­ing her son nine years ago, Me­lanie Delorme started to write down how she felt in a journal to help deal with her pain. Dur­ing her process of griev­ing, she met oth­ers who were ex­pe­ri­enc­ing sim­i­lar pain and de­cided to write a self-help book. She gath­ered all her jour­nals and au­thored, Af­ter the Flow­ers Die—a hand­book of heartache, hope and heal­ing af­ter los­ing a child. She re­cently launched the book in Moose Jaw. As an English teacher, Me­lanie loves writ­ing and de­cided to chan­nel hurt and grief into hope for oth­ers. She says this book of­fers sup­port to be­reaved par­ents and highlights the dif­fer­ent stages of grief that they may go through and how to deal with them. “I wrote it in mem­ory of my son, Gar­rett, who was ac­ci­dently killed nine years ago when he was shot hunt­ing, out with his dad and his friends. Della Fer­gu­son was a big part of our heal­ing process when we came for coun­selling so I re­con­nected with her when I wrote my book and she was happy to have me here to speak about this book.” The book was launched of­fi­cially in June this year and Me­lanie has been do­ing jour­nal­ing work­shops and shar­ing her story with oth­ers who are deal­ing with grief. Even though the process of writ­ing was of­ten an emo­tional one, Me­lanie says she found heal­ing through doc­u­ment­ing how she felt. “It took me about a year to write. There’s a sec­tion I wrote about the day my son died and that was the sec­tion I wrote about last. It was very emo­tional but at the same time heal­ing. I’ve had jour­nal­ing work­shops and con­fer­ences where I spoke about the book and how it can af­fect peo­ple’s lives and help them heal.”

She says the book pro­vides sup­port and reaf­firms read­ers that they are not alone. “The main rea­son I wrote this book is be­cause I didn’t want any other be­reaved par­ent to feel alone. I want peo­ple to pick up this book and feel sup­port and not hope­less be­cause there’s no worse feel­ing than feel­ing hope­less.”

So far, per­sons have been giv­ing the book great re­views. “There has been noth­ing but pos­i­tive feed­back and that’s a big re­lief. You never know how peo­ple will re­spond when you put your­self out there so it was re­ally great to hear pos­i­tive feed­back from those who have read the book, es­pe­cially from per­sons who are griev­ing gen­er­ally, those who have not lost a child. I’m happy this book can help them”

Af­ter the Flow­ers Die can be found at Chap­ters in Regina, Ama­zon and any other online book­store. For more in­for­ma­tion on this book, you can also visit www.melaniede­

Me­lanie Delorme, au­thor of Af­ter the Flow­ers Die.

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