MODERN DATING 2.0
I started working in the dating industry in 1992, before Match.com went live and well before social media. It is very clear dating has moved to mainly digital meet ups, online connections, mobile dating apps and online dating. In today's dating environment, you have to know how to navigate the virtual dating waters in order to successfully make a real-life connection and there's great news for ladies dating online today. According to Match.com's annual Singles In America Survey, 68% of men online admit they want to find love. Men also agreed (38%) the number one turn-on for men are female entrepreneurs. Go #bossbabes! If you're going to be online, here are some important do's and don'ts to consider to help you find your match in the digital dating world.
CARMELIA'S TOP 5 DATING DO'S
1/DO post an attractive profile photo.
I would say the single most important way to stand out and get noticed online is by posting an attractive online dating profile photo. Your profile picture says everything about you. In fact, your photo screams for men to either CLICK here or SWIPE left.
2/ DO write a catch-worthy bio.
While some men may not always read your entire profile, many men do. The right guy WILL read your profile because he is interested to see if you have things in common and if you are someone he might potentially click with in real life. Consider your online dating profile bio as your personal ad.
3/ DO create a personalized username.
In the sea of online dating profiles, the second most important consideration after your profile photo is your username. When you take the time to personalize your username, it helps to attract attention as well as potentially initiate a conversation around it. Creating an interesting and personalized username also helps with filtering and weeding out the wrong types.
4/ DO highlight your best self.
There's a big difference between bragging about yourself and genuinely being proud of who you are. If you won Entrepreneur of the Year or you were your school's valedictorian, then own it! Be proud of your accomplishments and it will attract the right mate that will be impressed with your achievements.
5/ DO be feminine, funny & flirty.
My three favorite F-words online are feminine, fun or funny and flirty. When you are able to write about yourself with these characteristics in mind, you'll have the perfect recipe for success.
CARMELIA'S TOP 5 DATING DON'TS
1\ DON’T make demands on your profile.
Men appreciate a strong woman, they just don't want to be in a relationship with one 24/7. There's always a time and place to be assertive and making demands on your online dating profile by listing a laundry list of “shoulds” would scare any man. This type of profile reads as “high maintenance.”
2\ DON’T include a negative “need not apply” laundry list.
When you make a list of all the DON'TS, you may come across as high maintenance. You can also appear very bitter when you write things like, “must NOT be broke,” “must NOT be a cheater,” “must NOT be a liar” and so forth. You subconsciously look like someone who has been burned in the past and will bring that negativity to your next relationship.
3\ DON’T be a negative nancy or debbie downer on your profile.
This seems self-explanatory but I feel it's so important to reiterate. It is much better practice to share who you WANT to meet and describe your IDEAL partner rather than talk about who you would rather not be with. Putting out positive thoughts in the dating world is like putting out positive vibes in the Universe. Good attracts good. A positive profile will attract the right guy and weed out the ones you should not be with.
4\ DON’T showcase old, blurry pictures.
Enough said. One of the biggest turn-offs for men and women is meeting someone IRL who looks nothing like their profile. No one wants to be kitten fished.
5\ DON’T assume all men are the same.
Online dating is a process and a journey. You may feel like you're on a dating roller coaster which is totally normal. What's important is that you DON'T paint all men with the same brush when you've had a bad experience. Taking your worries, insecurities and judgements on any date will ruin your chances of having a good time and set yourself up for failure.