Take the focus off yourself

Feedback: Regarding the woman feeling she’s being “hidden” from her boyfriend’s daughter: Reader: “She needs to remove the focus from herself. If he’s protecting his daughter, it’s out of love and respect for his daughter (she should always be his top priority).

“If they have no plans to remarry or cohabitate, she has no reason to push or rush anything.

“There are statistics about how many fathers behave when with a girlfriend and how it impacts their children. I commend the father for considering this.

“How could the daughter who hasn’t met her be controlling her father’s behaviour? Give the daughter some compassion. Her life was ripped apart by divorce.

“The man needs to manage his father-daughter relationship without interference from someone who could just be a transient partner.

“It’s not about demeaning the girlfriend. Women coming into a man’s life (when he has children) need to realize they’re not the centre of the world, that it’s a sensitive space to step into.

“Maybe he’s just being selective about who he brings around this girlfriend. The couple don’t want to marry or cohabitate now, so she needs to manage her expectations.”

Q Soon after our mother died, my sisters and father used power of attorney in a foreign country to switch title deeds to their names, without my knowledge.

I discovered that, two days before her death, they had our mother transfer her shares of a corporation to themselves.

It gave them powers to exclude me from land here in the U.S., all discovered by me after some research.

I’ve confronted them but am ignored. I’ve been too lenient but it makes me feel sick to turn the matter over to police.

I haven’t spoken to my family for two years. They’ve even deleted me from Facebook.

My loving wife, who knows the whole story, wants me to let it go. She says that “karma” will take care of them.

What should I do?

Cheated Son

A Get legal advice and discuss with the police. If there’s a winnable case, that’s karma too. Read Ellie Monday to Saturday. Email ellie@thestar.ca. Follow @ellieadvice.