Keep an eye on daughter’s social bubble
Q My wife and I have two adult girls. One lives about an hour away with two daughters, ages 8 and 6. The other lives five minutes away from us. She has a small dog she brings along when she visits us.
The married daughter and grandchildren have not had any contact with us except via FaceTime. Our other daughter has not been inside our house since the pandemic started. We visit outside.
We found out from a granddaughter their other grandparents visit without masks and with no social distancing. It was also disclosed by my granddaughter that the other grandfather has booked a resort in the countryside for one or two weeks in the summer.
What actions would you see as appropriate to deal with this situation? We feel that both incidents are dangerous and inappropriate.
Worried Papa and Gramma
A You can speak up, and should do so with expressions of caring along with solid information backing your concern.
But there are few other “actions” open to handling this situation without creating wide rifts between you and your married daughter’s family.
She, her children and her husband are living in their own bubble which clearly includes her in-laws.
I understand your hurt feelings, and your fears. But these are adults who’ve already made these decisions, and, fortunately so far, haven’t had to deal with a resulting virus infection.
Stay alert to the reports from epidemiological, and provincial public health sources, watching for changes based on where the numbers of infections/deaths/ tests and contact tracing are leading us. Either we’ll be in the next phase of the pandemic with less restrictions, or some people like your daughter, her family and her in-laws are taking serious risks. Alert her to consider the consequences. firstname.lastname@example.org