Keep an eye on daugh­ter’s so­cial bub­ble

Ottawa Citizen - - You - EL­LIE TESHER Ad­vice

Q My wife and I have two adult girls. One lives about an hour away with two daugh­ters, ages 8 and 6. The other lives five min­utes away from us. She has a small dog she brings along when she vis­its us.

The mar­ried daugh­ter and grand­chil­dren have not had any contact with us ex­cept via FaceTime. Our other daugh­ter has not been in­side our house since the pan­demic started. We visit out­side.

We found out from a grand­daugh­ter their other grand­par­ents visit with­out masks and with no so­cial dis­tanc­ing. It was also dis­closed by my grand­daugh­ter that the other grand­fa­ther has booked a re­sort in the coun­try­side for one or two weeks in the sum­mer.

What ac­tions would you see as ap­pro­pri­ate to deal with this sit­u­a­tion? We feel that both in­ci­dents are dan­ger­ous and in­ap­pro­pri­ate.

Wor­ried Papa and Gramma

A You can speak up, and should do so with ex­pres­sions of car­ing along with solid in­for­ma­tion back­ing your con­cern.

But there are few other “ac­tions” open to han­dling this sit­u­a­tion with­out cre­at­ing wide rifts be­tween you and your mar­ried daugh­ter’s fam­ily.

She, her chil­dren and her hus­band are liv­ing in their own bub­ble which clearly in­cludes her in-laws.

I un­der­stand your hurt feel­ings, and your fears. But th­ese are adults who’ve al­ready made th­ese de­ci­sions, and, for­tu­nately so far, haven’t had to deal with a re­sult­ing virus in­fec­tion.

Stay alert to the re­ports from epi­demi­o­log­i­cal, and pro­vin­cial pub­lic health sources, watch­ing for changes based on where the numbers of in­fec­tions/deaths/ tests and contact trac­ing are lead­ing us. Ei­ther we’ll be in the next phase of the pan­demic with less re­stric­tions, or some peo­ple like your daugh­ter, her fam­ily and her in-laws are tak­ing se­ri­ous risks. Alert her to con­sider the con­se­quences. el­lie@thes­tar.ca

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