THE EX­PERT AN­SWERS:

WHAT IF YOU DON’T LIKE THE OB­JECT OF YOUR CHILD’S AF­FEC­TION?

Parents Canada - - Relating -

DR. BAX: You close the doors of com­mu­ni­ca­tion when you take a hard stand with your kids about their ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ships or their friends. Ask them what they see in that per­son; some­times par­ents can be sur­prised be­cause what they see isn’t the same. Talk about qual­i­ties that make a good mate. In clin­i­cal prac­tice, when a teen is in a se­ri­ous re­la­tion­ship that we might be con­cerned about, I like to ask, “Do you see your­self with this per­son in 10 years?” Ado­les­cents feel like the here and now is the most im­por­tant thing, so some­times help­ing them look to the fu­ture gives them some per­spec­tive and they re­al­ize that a long-term com­mit­ment with that per­son might not be what they want.

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