Learning to transform
People often ask my why it is that so many of us are struggling with tough issues right now, It seems that almost everyone is dealing with some crisis in their lives. It may be marital problems, difficulties with children, parents or perhaps upheaval at work.
Certainly one response is that the world is much more complicated now than it used to be, and another response is that we are a little more open nowadays about our personal struggle than was the case in the past, and consequently more is out in the open. However, is another dimension to this question that deserves closer scrutiny, it is the underlying assumption that life somehow should go along smoothly, and that if things go wrong, then something unnatural is occurring.
This belief can set us up for disappointment and frustration. It is a little like wanting a beautiful garden, and going out to work in it, and then becoming upset if we get our hands dirty. If we feel that setbacks in life are strikes against us, we tend to become discouraged. If, on the other hand, we see difficulties as hurdles to leap over or get around, or perhaps as puzzles to solve, we then empower ourselves, and can begin to see life’s difficulties as the challenges that they really are.