Little babies will sooner or later begin teething, Two-year-olds will inevitably get into everything, children will fall off of their bikes and get chicken pox, teenagers will try us, people will irritate us, loved ones will die, relationships will have their rough spots or end. Many of these things cannot be helped, and our challenge may be to keep our spirits up and to still find joy in life.
Other difficulties that persist may be messages to us that what we are doing in some situations is not working. It is important for us to get a handle on what it is that we would like to have happen: what is the final outcome we would like to see. Examples might be to have a more relaxed and comfortable relationship with a teenaged child, or to have a more loving connection a mate.
Notice here that the focus is on the desired outcome and not on the other person’s behavior the next step is to ask ourselves, “What can / do that will increase the likelihood of my desired outcome?” Then begin to do it. this is one of the most important ways in which we can grow. Focusing on what is wrong in the world or with other people keeps us stuck in negativity, and does not challenge our inner resources.
The main item on the evolutionary agenda for each of us right now is learning to transform situations so that we can create the kind of relationships and experiences that we want to have in our lives. If that sounds tough, try to remember how impossible it seemed when you first tried to ride a bike. It’s shaky at first, but eventually it all comes together. JMCPL events:
Wednesday Movie: The Shack, 6:30 (132 min., PG13)
NAFTA Presentation by Nancy Carswell, Council of Canadians: 7:00 Old Time Dance at the P.A. Seniors Heritage Centre, 8-10 p.m. Pot luck lunch. JMCPL Explore Lifelong Learning for Seniors Laptop Lab for Beginners: 9:30 (Call 763-8496 to register.)
ANAVETS Friday dances featuring Misty Mountain, 8:30 p.m. until 12:30 a.m.
Used toys and kids clothing sale, 7 p.m. at Prince Albert Alliance Church, 28th Street and Sixth Avenue West. For consignment seller or other information, call 306-763-3771 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.