The right time to stop hav­ing mam­mo­grams

Prince Albert Daily Herald - - LETTER TO THE EDITOR - Keith Roach

usu­ally is the right time to have that dis­cus­sion, but ear­lier is fine, es­pe­cially in women who have other chronic health con­di­tions.

DEAR DR. ROACH: In 2013, I suf­fered ter­ri­bly with sci­at­ica. The pain was more than ex­cru­ci­at­ing -- it felt like a knife was stuck in my leg. I also had numb­ness in my toes. I had a CAT scan, which showed spinal steno­sis, and I was sched­uled for a laminec­tomy and spinal fu­sion. The surgery was a com­plete suc­cess. How­ever, I thought that the numb­ness would go away af­ter the surgery, but it hasn’t. Even now, I still feel some tin­gling and sharp pains in my toes or foot, and more than three years later I still have the numb­ness in my toes, foot and leg, up to my knee. Is it likely this is per­ma­nent nerve dam­age? -- J.B.

AN­SWER: Spinal steno­sis is a com­mon con­di­tion, where the spinal cord or nerve roots of the cord are com­pressed by bony struc­tures re­lated to arthri­tis of the spine. The ma­jor symp­toms are pain and numb­ness. Weak­ness is the most wor­ri­some symp­tom, and pro­gres­sive weak­ness is a sur­gi­cal emer­gency.

Af­ter suc­cess­ful surgery, the symp­toms are re­lieved, but in my mind, surgery is not com­pletely suc­cess­ful un­less all of the symp­toms are gone. Your sur­geon may have done as good a job as hu­manly pos­si­ble; how­ever, nerves do not al­ways re­cover 100 per­cent of their func­tion. If nerve re­cov­ery is go­ing to hap­pen, it usu­ally does so by the end of the first year.

DEAR ABBY: I’m in my 60s, fit, sex­u­ally able and I de­sire phys­i­cal re­la­tions. My wife, be­cause of health is­sues, is no longer in­ter­ested in sex. In fact, it would be at least mildly painful to her.

I re­cently met a lady my age who is in the same predica­ment. She has a sex­ual ap­petite; her hus­band does not. She hinted she would be in­ter­ested in be­ing “friends with ben­e­fits.” I didn’t pur­sue the hint be­cause it caught me by sur­prise and I wasn’t quick-wit­ted enough to fol­low up on it at the time.

I am won­der­ing if such a re­la­tion­ship is ac­cept­able with today’s mores and the cir­cum­stances. No, I won’t dis­cuss this with my wife. It would only hurt her feel­ings and strain our re­la­tion­ship. Should I pur­sue the hint? -- FOL­LOW UP ON THE HINT

DEAR FOL­LOW UP: I would not ad­vise pur­su­ing the “hint” -- which ap­pears to me to be more of a full frontal as­sault -- with­out think­ing very care­fully. The prob­lem with adul­ter­ous re­la­tion­ships is that more of­ten than not, the spouse catches on. If you think that by not talk­ing this out with your wife you will be spar­ing her feel­ings, you are wrong. When, not if, she finds out, she will be dev­as­tated.

As women age their bod­ies change, and sex can be­come painful. But that can be re­me­di­ated in many cases with pre­scrip­tion and other med­i­ca­tions. It’s pos­si­ble they could help your wife. Of course, that’s not go­ing to hap­pen un­less

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