Married man considers affair to replace dormant love life
she talks with her OB/GYN about the problem. And that won’t happen unless you talk to her.
DEAR ABBY: I was unhappily married years ago and conceived a child by an ex-boyfriend. My son is now 31. I divorced my husband 28 years ago. He knew the baby was not his, but claimed him as his own son. He refused to do a DNA test when we were going through the divorce. He died a few years ago.
I am in contact with my son’s biological father. They look identical, and my grandson looks just like his father and grandfather.
My guilt is consuming me. I want to tell my son that even though the dad he knew all his life is gone, he still has a chance to get to know another father who is his blood. On the other hand, I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my son and grandchildren, whom I love very much. How can I tell the truth without hurting my son and our relationship? -- RIGHTING A WRONG
DEAR RIGHTING: Better late than never. Your son needs to know that the man who raised him and claimed him as his own was not his biological father so that he can have a complete medical history. If the birth father wasn’t interested in knowing or supporting his son, he sounds more like a sperm donor than a “blood” relative to me. Do not be surprised if your son isn’t interested in knowing more about his birth father than the information I suggested.