You must learn to move on from your mean, greedy sis­ter

Saskatoon StarPhoenix - - MOVIES -

Dear Annie: I am one of 13 sib­lings. Both of our par­ents have been sick for the past four years. At one time, we had a fam­ily meet­ing, and ev­ery­one agreed to pay $20 a week for a care­giver, since we all worked.

But slowly, my sib­lings started to bail out. The first to go was their favourite (and un­grate­ful) daugh­ter.

Dad died three months ago.

It was hard on those of my sis­ters who gave up their week­ends to care for my folks and put their fam­i­lies on the back burner in or­der to do the right thing by our par­ents.

Mean­while, the un­grate­ful daugh­ter and an­other sis­ter were listed as ben­e­fi­cia­ries on Dad’s life in­sur­ance pol­icy.

We talked to them about leav­ing the money to Mom, who needed it, and sug­gested they give her at least half.

One sis­ter did. The other, how­ever, pock­eted all of it. How can she live with her­self? Why are some sib­lings so self­ish? What can we do?

Sad­dened Sib­ling

Dear Sib­ling: We can’t ex­plain why some kids turn out the way they do.

The psy­cho­log­i­cal fac­tors are too nu­mer­ous to men­tion. Un­for­tu­nately, you can­not force your sis­ter to re­turn any of the money or to be gra­cious enough to give it to Mom.

Chalk it up to a frus­trat­ing and sad loss, not only of the money, but also of your close­ness to your sis­ter.

Annie’s Mailbox is writ­ten by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, long­time ed­i­tors of the Ann Lan­ders col­umn.

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