Brown Girl problems
I love being able to dress up for South Asian events and weddings but sometimes I like to stretch the boundaries. With all the latest fashion I see in SHE, I see a lot of styles that have a Western fusion to the typical traditional South Asian style of dress. I’m a fashion major so I love trying out new trends and it’s a must for me to be up-to-date with what I wear. However, being Indian, I find family members and elders always having something negative to say about me being modern in terms of my dress sense saying it’s not conservative enough or “appropriate”. How can I express myself with fashion whilst trying to keep my family happy?
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Dear Vogue, Formal South Asian-wear has changed over the years to a point where it now intersects with Western-wear. There’s nothing wrong with expressing yourself within your own culture. That being said, it’s common in South Asian cultures to be conservative and ‘covered up’. Whatever it is exactly that your family members might have a problem with, it’s up to you to determine whether their negative comments are more important than the way you choose to present yourself. If you simultaneously try to keep yourself and those around you happy, chances are you won’t be.
Of course, the above may not sit well with your family so option two is coming to an agreement with them. Ask them what it is exactly they don’t like about your outfit. Let them give their feedback. It may inspire you to do something with an outfit you’ve never done before while getting the thumbs up from your family members.
I’m a 26-year-old Indian girl, whose hair feels like it’s thinning day by day. I used to have such thick hair until I started using my straightener and curling iron religiously. Now whenever I wash my hair, I feel like I’m losing so much of it. Even when I don’t use any sort of heating iron on my hair I still feel like it doesn’t improve the thickness.
Dear Un-luscious Locks, When straighteners and curlers are styling the hair on our scalp, the damage done is usually delayed. It can take many years before you notice that your isn’t growing as much as as it used do. Persistent heat and damage to hair can eventually lead to permanent hair loss. However, all hope isn’t lost. There are many oils meant especially for hair that can encourage and promote hair growth through the hair follicles on your scalp. Coconut oil and almond oil are number one. Find these at your local drugstore (even your local South Asian store likely sells them) and massage into your scalp twice a week. Leave it in for a couple of hours or overnight. After washing it out, your hair will already feel healthier and nourished. Keep this habit up and it’s likely that less hair will be falling out—even better—your hair may be thicker.
Another solution? Biotin supplements. Many testimonials have rated this product highly and have reported excellent results of hair growing every where. (YES, this means hair will grow not only on your scalp, but every where). Whichever route you decide, make sure your heating iron habits are under control as well. These methods to gain thicker hair require teamwork.