How to avoid cross words about crosswords
Situation perfect practice for letting go of control issues
I’ve started a new job where I am very happy. During lunch break, I sit with a group of co-workers who I consider my friends. We talk about our lives to each other while filling out the daily crossword. The problem is one co-worker, let’s call him Mr. X, who starts filling out the crossword because his lunch break is first. He fills in many clues, then goes back to work. But a lot of his answers are incorrect.
This really bothers me and I want to say something. But he has been around for years and I am the company’s newest employee. The other co-workers are fine with his mistakes. “Oh, that’s Mr. X” they will say. I am wondering if I should get my co-workers to rally against him, to not fill out the crossword before we ar- rive. I think he won’t have a leg to stand on if we do confront him and we can fill out the crossword collectively and contently. Sincerely,
Before you take any action, ask yourself the following questions: Mr. X obviously derives enjoyment from filling out the crossword — so why would you want to spoil his fun, or publicly shame him, by pointing out he’s bad at it?
Everyone else at work is well aware that Mr. X is bad at crosswords, and they have no problem with it — so how do you think they might react if you, a brand-new employee, tell them to gang up on their ol’ buddy Mr. X, simply because you, and you alone, have a problem with him?
Why do you think you feel so strongly about this? Is this something that has come up in other areas of your life? Do you often find yourself in situations where you are obviously right about something, but unable to get the lesser folk around you to play by your rules?