The time is now
Do you or does anyone you know worry about getting old? It can be quite natural to lament the passing of youth, However if it is agonizing to think about advancing years, or depressing to look in the mirror and see signs of aging, then the problem may run deeper.
My theory is that people who worry excessively about getting older may do so because they have not been living fully. On some level they know that they have not been living as the person they truly are, and that their life may have been, or is still, a compromise. They know that past years can never be recovered, and may fear that they will not have time, or may have lost the opportunity to live life as they really want.
And so the nagging little worries about aging may in fact be a signal from deep within our being that it is time to make some changes. It is true that life is short, and that none of us know how much time we will have for our journey. It’s like the game shows – once the buzzer rings, what you have achieved is what you are left with. Only we are not talking about material gain. Rather, the quality of the life we have lived is determined each time we make a choice. If our choices are positive and healing, then the quality of our life is good. If they are negative and destructive, then the reverse is true.
And the quality can take years to change, or it can change in an instant, a decision to mend a rift, release a grudge and open our hearts to another human being creates instant dividends. It is like making a huge deposit in our savings account. Regardless of how low it has been for the preceding months or years, one big deposit changes things. It works the same way in our “quality of life” savings account. Whereas it may take a lot of time to accumulate money, it need not take time to accumulate “quality of life” dividends. The decision to release old anger, bitterness or resentment takes only an instant. Resisting that decision makes it seem like a lengthy process, but once you let go of the resistance, the decision comes easily.
I believe it comes easily because deep down, at the core of our essence, I think that we all desire harmonious relationships, and to be able to give and receive love. And our capacity to give love and expand our ability to understand others compassionately is infinite.
Although it may sound melodramatic, a good way to focus on the quality of your own life is to ask yourself a question: “If I were to die suddenly tomorrow, would I be leaving my relationships in a state that I would feel good about? Are there people in my life who would forever wonder if I really loved them? Is the statement that I am making with my life the one that I really mean to say?”
If it’s not, the time to start changing is now.
You may only need to walk into the next room, or pick up the phone. Do it.