In her first foray into column writing, a Level 2 student at Crescent Collegiate shares her youthful thoughts on Valentine’s Day.
Some people look forward to Valent ine’s Day : hallways adorned with pink and red, special gifts of flowers and chocolates from a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, and that general feeling that love is in the air. For others, however, a dread of this day is caused by feelings of corniness and embarrassment towards the day itself. These feelings generate around the time of Feb. 14.
For young children, Valentine’s Day is an excitement. Kids look forward to exchanging store-bought valentines with their friends, and eating festive treats. Everyone has memories of those little classroom parties in elementary school, with cupcakes and card exchanges. But as we get older, the holiday loses its appeal and amusement.
In fact, teenagers are burdened by pressure on this day. Since it is an unwritten rule that you should not be single on Valentine’s Day, high schoolers put themselves through the humiliation of asking someone to be their valentine, only to be rejected and unable to look that person in the eye ever again.
It’s just as bad for people who are already in a relationship. In high school, breakups tend to happen more often right before or around Valentine’s Day. This could be due, again, to the pressure of the holiday. Everyone knows that on Valentine’s Day, you have to plan the perfect romantic evening for your special someone, and if you get one little detail messed up, you’re dead meat. This is not completely true, but the expectations are just too great for the average high school student, so they settle with ending the relationship beforehand to avoid the disappointment. Although this may seem a little irrational, it’s how some teens feel toward the day.
It is possible to enjoy Valentine’s Day, even if you are single. For example, gather the girls together for a movie night, or go around the bay with the b’ys. But sometimes, it is difficult to remember that you can enjoy yourself when you’re confronted by shelves covered from top to bottom with singing teddy bears in the nearest store. The commercial aspect of the day is most prominent. This is not always easy to avoid, considering all the advertisements from stores trying to convince you to buy their newest Valentine-themed merchandise. This can be distracting and also annoying, especially for teens who could do without a day of taunts from Cupid.
Theoretically speaking, Valentine’s Day is showing the people you care about just how much you love them. This can be done by reminding them how much they are appreciated, and how important they are in your life. While a fancy, candlelit dinner for two may be romantic, it is a lot of trouble for a high school student to go through. If this is what you want, go for it. If not, settle for sending someone a hand-written card or letter, or even something as simple as holding the door open for the person walking behind you. These gestures would not normally be considered the perfect Valentine’s Day gift, but sometimes, the small things are just enough.