Emily’s buckle of hope
Granddaughter’s gift encourages support for the Cancer Care Foundation
Emily Lane was only five years old when her grandmother Sheila finished her first round of cancer treatment.
At such a young age, the blond kindergartener understood what her grandmother was going through because she witnessed her cancer journey from the beginning.
Emily is now 10 years old, and remembers the struggles and pain she seen her Nan experience, but always believed she would pull through.
The Lane family — Sheila, husband Barry, son Andrew, son Blair, his wife Pam and their three children, Emily, Dawson and Brianna — sat down with The Compass at the family home in Bay Roberts to discuss a very special bond Sheila and Emily share and the gift that helped create it
Learning her fate
In 2007, before getting diagnosed, Sheila — who is 54 — had some tests ordered by her doctor. She was in the family vehicle, waiting for her husband Barry to come out of a store when she received a phone call.
“My doctor called and told me I had (uterine) cancer,” Sheila, who hails from Sop’s Arm on the Northern Peninsula, explained. “There was a message left for me at home from the cancer clinic, so the doctor thought he should tell me before I heard it there.”
That was the moment everything changed for the Lane family. They didn’t know what would happen, or if Sheila would pull through, but they stuck together.
Losing her locks
Sheila remembers when she first began losing her hair during the treatment, stating it was an emotional moment.
“For a lot of women who have cancer, the first dramatic thing they experience is that they are going to lose their hair,” she said.
Although it was tough, Sheila said she went to her stylist and had her head shaved . Her youngest son Andrew, who would be graduating the same week, threw hi s support behind his mother and shaved his head too.
“Andrew told me, ‘Mom, when you came home with your head shaved, I knew I was going to shave mine,’” Sheila continued.
The two had photos taken together at Andrew’s graduation, both sans hair.
The Lane family planned a special gathering for when Sheila completed her f irst round of treatment early in 2008. Friends and family gathered together to celebrate her milestone.
After everyone else left, and only Sheila and her granddaughter Emily were left in the house, Emily presented her grandmother with a small red and gold ring box. Surprised, Sheila took the lid off the box, and inside was a pink and blue hair clip.
Emily proceeded to tel l her grandmother, “This is for when your hair grows back.”
It wasn’t until Christmas 2008 that Sheila told the family about the present.
“The best gift I’ve ever received was what Emily gave me,” she said.
The story was revealed, and family members burst into tears at the beautiful gesture by such a young girl.
“It was just like Emily to do something like that, something thoughtful and something profound,” Emily’s mom, Pam, said.
Blair, who is a business owner and singer/songwriter, used the experience to write a song about the buckle and the story behind it. He cal l ed it Pretty Buckle (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tl-o_1AL-eM&feature=share).
The gift became more precious after Sheila got diagnosed with two more types of cancer — a treatable and non-treatable lymphoma. She lost her hair again, but this time had son Blair hold the clippers. It was then Sheila and Barry split their home betwe e n Sop’s Arm and Bay Roberts.
Sheila is doing well . She has beaten the treatable form of lymphoma, and is currently fighting the other.
Concert of hope
Because of the strain cancer has had on the Lane family, Blair decided he wanted to raise money for the Dr. H. Bliss Murphy Cancer Care Foundation.
Just this summer, Blair went to Nashville, Tennessee and recorded an album with all original songs. With the album set to release in November, he felt it was the perfect time to use the release as a fundraiser for the foundation.
Catherine Simmons of Catherine’s Dance Studio in Bay Roberts will be performing while Blair sings “Pretty Buckle.” Catherine’s mother lost her battle to cancer last year.
The foundation has been onboard since the concert was announced.
“Everybody has been touched by cancer,” Blair said. “And what a way to help the cause than donating the proceeds from the concert to the Cancer Care Foundation.”
The concert will take place at the Princess Sheila NaGeira Thea treat the Conception B ay Regional Community Centre in Carbonear on Nov. 23 at 8 p.m.
For tickets or more information, call 596-7529.
The Lane family gathered in Bay Roberts recently to talk about the family matriarch’s battle with cancer, and the beautiful gift her oldest granddaughter gave her after her first bout of treatment was over. Those in attendance were, back — (l-r) Andrew Lane (son), Dawson Lane (grandson), Barry Lane (husband), Blair Lane (son), Brianna Lane (granddaughter) and Pam Lane (daughter-in-law); front — Sheila Lane (wearing the hair buckle) and Emily Lane.
Sheila Lane (right) is a cancer survivor. When granddaughter Emily was five years old, she gave Sheila a blue and pink hair clip after completion of her first round of cancer treatment, saying it was for when her hair grows back. Now 10, Emily places the clip in her grandmother’s hair for the first time.