A plea for shared responsibility
Are there enough hours in a day to do all that we want to do?
Recently I sat down with another lady to talk about changes that have taken place in our lives since we were kids. Our conversation centred around the new trend of women in trades and the impact on their home life.
Growing up in rural Newfoundland, our mothers were role models of a different nature. They worked hard all day long and well into the night ensuring that the family was cared for. Men would often get preferential treatment for obvious reasons. It was important to keep the breadwinner happy. There was a definite end to my father’s work day. My father would be bone tired from manual labour. Mother on the other hand didn’t end her day until she threw back the covers to climb into bed.
Recent good times in Newfoundland and Labrador have seen women take on these more physically demanding roles – choosing to be tradeswomen. Does this mean that her day is any shorter? Does she get to relax and get rejuvenated for the next day? Who cares for them after a long day of physically taxing work? Does she still feel the burden of a double day?
The double day – working outside the home and then coming home to do another day’s work of caring for the family. It is not a new concept. Now that she is doing non-traditional work, does she get a break on the work at home? Does the change that is taking place make its way into the home?
It remains to be seen but one thing is certain – things need to change. We are entering a new era where the wellbeing of the family is equally shared by both partners. If there is a need for a double day, it needs to be shared by all and the sooner the better. Debbie Adams, originally from Upper Island Cove, writes from Halifax