Person hurt, confused after dating co-worker
QUESTION: On my first date with a co-worker, he said that he loved me, which I felt was too fast, too soon.
That month, he said that he wanted to have a baby with me. When I said things are moving too fast, he thought that I wasn’t interested in the relationship.
He’d constantly text me at work. He bought me a $78 box of makeup and said I look good in makeup, though previously he’d said he liked me without it.
He then wanted to marry me on my birthday. I said again that it’s moving way too fast for me.
I eventually had to complain about him at work because I often felt pressured and stressed out. He said that it’s either mutual love or mutual leave.
I’m having a hard time dealing with hurt and confusion, and seeing him at work. I was beginning to feel that he did love me. How can I deal with this relationship having gone bad and forget about him? I feel guilty for telling on him.
ANSWER: You’ve been bombarded by a manipulative controller. You’re well rid of him for your mental health.
Feel no guilt. Feel relief instead, because a longterm relationship with him would have you far more stressed out, always trying to satisfy his latest wish. Everything he did and said was designed to have you jumping to his latest command: Love immediately, wear no makeup, then start using makeup, marry when I decide, etc., etc.
No wonder you reached out for help with your complaint. That was your instinct to save yourself from further harassment.
Manipulative people draw you into their plans for themselves, by trying to control you. He loved himself more than he loved you.