Michelle Obama re­veals mis­car­riage in mem­oir

The Daily Courier - - LIFE - By LAU­RIE KELL­MAN

WASH­ING­TON — Michelle Obama says she felt “lost and alone” af­ter suf­fer­ing a mis­car­riage 20 years ago and she and Barack Obama un­der­went in vitro fer­til­iza­tion to con­ceive their two daugh­ters.

“We were try­ing to get preg­nant and it wasn't go­ing well,” Mrs. Obama, 54, writes in her up­com­ing mem­oir. “We had one preg­nancy test come back pos­i­tive, which caused us both to for­get every worry and swoon with joy, but a cou­ple of weeks later I had a mis­car­riage, which left me phys­i­cally un­com­fort­able and cratered any op­ti­mism we felt.”

The As­so­ci­ated Press pur­chased an early copy of Be­com­ing, Mrs. Obama's mem­oir and one of the most avidly an­tic­i­pated po­lit­i­cal books in re­cent mem­ory. In it, she writes of be­ing alone to ad­min­is­ter her­self shots to help has­ten the process. Her “sweet, at­ten­tive hus­band” was at the state leg­is­la­ture, “leav­ing me largely on my own to ma­nip­u­late my re­pro­duc­tive sys­tem into peak ef­fi­ciency.”

Obama's fam­ily rev­e­la­tions are some of many in­cluded in the book from a for­mer first lady who has of­fered few ex­ten­sive com­ments on her White House years. And mem­oirs by for­mer first ladies, in­clud­ing Hil­lary Clin­ton and Laura Bush, are usu­ally best­sellers. Be­com­ing is set to be re­leased Tues­day. IVF is one form of as­sisted re­pro­duc­tion and typ­i­cally in­volves re­mov­ing eggs from a woman, fer­til­iz­ing them with sperm in a lab, and im­plant­ing a re­sult­ing em­bryo into the woman’s uterus. It costs thou­sands of dol­lars for every “cy­cle,” and many cou­ples re­quire more than one at­tempt.

“I felt like I failed be­cause I didn’t know how com­mon mis­car­riages were be­cause we don’t talk about them,” the for­mer first lady said in an in­ter­view broad­cast Fri­day on ABC’s Good Morn­ing Amer­ica. “We sit in our own pain, think­ing that some­how we’re bro­ken.”

Mrs. Obama, said she and Barack Obama un­der­went fer­til­iza­tion treat­ments to con­ceive daugh­ters Sasha and Malia, now 17 and 20.

In the mem­oir, Mrs. Obama also writes openly about ev­ery­thing from grow­ing up in Chicago to con­fronting racism in pub­lic life and be­com­ing the coun­try's first black first lady.

She also lets loose a blast of anger at Pres­i­dent Donald Trump.

She writes in the mem­oir that Trump’s ques­tion­ing of whether her hus­band was an Amer­i­can ci­ti­zen was “crazy and mean-spir­ited ... its un­der­ly­ing big­otry and xeno­pho­bia hardly con­cealed. But it was also dan­ger­ous, de­lib­er­ately meant to stir up the wingnuts and kooks.”

“What if some­one with an un­sta­ble mind loaded a gun and drove to Wash­ing­ton? What if that per­son went look­ing for our girls?” she writes in the mem­oir. “Donald Trump, with his loud and reck­less in­nu­en­dos, was putting my fam­ily’s safety at risk. And for this, I’d never for­give him.”

Trump sug­gested Obama was not born in the U.S. but on for­eign soil — his fa­ther was Kenyan. The for­mer pres­i­dent was born in Hawaii.

As he left for Paris Fri­day, Trump chose not to re­spond to the for­mer first lady, telling re­porters, “Oh, I guess she wrote a book. She got paid a lot of money to write a book and they al­ways in­sisted you come up with con­tro­ver­sial.” Trump in­stead changed the sub­ject to his pre­de­ces­sor, Barack Obama, say­ing, “I’ll never for­give him” for mak­ing the coun­try “very un­safe.”

Mrs. Obama also ex­presses dis­be­lief over how so many women would choose a “misog­y­nist” over Clin­ton in 2016. She re­mem­bers how her body “buzzed with fury” af­ter see­ing the in­fa­mous Ac­cess Hollywood tape, in which Trump brags about sex­u­ally as­sault­ing women.

She also ac­cuses Trump of us­ing body lan­guage to “stalk” Clin­ton dur­ing an elec­tion de­bate. She writes of Trump fol­low­ing Clin­ton around the stage, stand­ing nearby and “try­ing to di­min­ish her pres­ence.”

The As­so­ci­ated Press

Michelle Obama is seen here par­tic­i­pat­ing in the In­ter­na­tional Day of the Girl on NBC’s To­day show last month.

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