Teen needs some mature advice
- I'm 14 and a lesbian. I've had a crush on this FTM boy ( female to male transgender) for 18 months, whom I’ve never met.
Right now he's a girl. My friend knows him and his girlfriend, and she isn’t someone who makes up bluffs.
I don't know where he's going for High School. I might never see him again.
Also, he's not comfortable being a female, and my sexual preference is females only. I've never felt attracted to males before.
I've been told by friends that love has no boundaries, and that sexuality is just who you are.
Over the school year, we'd been making consistent eye-contact in the hallways, and I'm not sure if he likes me or not.
He looks so happy with his girlfriend, and he flirts with her in front of me sometimes.
I should've said Hi the first time I saw him.
I became intrigued, and now my eyes are constantly scanning the hallways. I'm scared that I'll never see him again.
I like to have control over my life, I have to keep things in check or I rip myself apart.
I know that I have so much ahead of me, but right now, this is what's happening I need control. I need help. Feeling Lost
- You’re not “lost,” but you are feeling the pressures that some young teens face living in a complex environment.
You’re especially attracted to people who seem interesting and unique, and also busy managing your own identity.
It’s clear that you’re already a strong-minded person, but the drama of it all makes you feel helpless when you can’t control what’s happening.
You need someone you can talk to who has maturity, experience, and understanding.
If you have a parent who can be that guide, don’t hesitate to open up. You don’t have to handle all things on your own.
If not, talk to a school counsellor, trusted adult, or connect with someone at an agency that helps gay and lesbian youth.
PFLAG is an organization that can also help your parents understand you better.
It promotes the health and wellbeing of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, along with their families and friends.