Woman being used by roommate
- I'm early 30's, living with a roommate for a couple of years. It helped me afford going to school in the past.
Now I’m a working career woman while she's still in school, and doesn’t work in the summer.
I knew when I moved in with her that she had a cat.
She soon bought a second cat. I’m not a cat person but I'm tolerant of them.
However, she's lately been gone frequently for several days’ trips at a time.
I don't mind taking care of her cats for a night or two, but she just expects me to be the cat-sitter while she's away.
I'm gone for Monday-Friday.
I like going to the gym, visiting friends, staying overnight at my boyfriend's house.
Recently, she said she's going away for a week to the East coast.
When I said that I may not be around and she should get a plan B person while I'm at work/with my boyfriend/camping/etc, she got defensive.
She said she only has a couple of friends in town, both way too busy to check in on her cats.
We live downtown where it's not difficult for someone to stop by for 30 minutes to feed them and clean the litter box.
I don't think it's fair for her to use me as a live-in cat-sitter.
I don't have pets because I don't want the responsibility. Am used?
Or is taking care of my roommate's cats five to seven nights a month just part of the responsibilities of being a roommate?
How do I tell her that I don't want to scoop her kitties' litter boxes anymore?!
TIP OF THE DAY
bit A-You’re being used. Speak up. Occasional two-to-three day stints are part of sharing a home… but you still need to be asked.
If you were also planning to be away that weekend, she gets another friend or hires a cat-sitter (she can apparently afford the trips, so the cat is part of that expense).
A roommate who uses you, risks losing you.