Finances often issue for couples
- My spouse of three years and I have a child together, almost age two.
I’ve tried talking to my spouse about his behaviour, but he doesn't feel he’s selfish in any way. We’re struggling financially. When I come in to some extra money I think of things that we need or something that would be nice for us. When he received a bonus from work, he spent it all on things for himself. I felt miserable.
He always tells me it's our money, our decisions. But he spent $4000 without even discussing it with me.
I've mentioned before about how we could use more time together and maybe go out sometimes, but he'd rather play video games.
I've said that when he spends money like that without talking to me about it, I feel hurt and neglected. I feel like I'm on the verge of depression, yet constantly thinking about his feelings though he never considers mine.
- The presence of a first child often brings out different issues between couples – and finances is a common one.
If your spouse is truly selfish, you would’ve seen signs of this beforehand. Perhaps you didn’t “get” it. Perhaps his video interest didn’t keep you from going out before the baby arrived.
But now his self-indulgence with money and video-gaming is affecting you more.
Speak up as an equal partner. It’s about both of you adapting to the new circumstances.
Create a list of things you need to buy as soon as there’s extra money, plus a list of “treats” you’d both like, including an occasional night out even controlling. You are likely to get into a tiff with this person. Tonight: Avoid a difficult situation, and you will be much happier. LEO ( July 23-Aug. 22)
You might want to get away from the wild interactions happening around you. Your temper could flare up suddenly and catch you and others off guard. Sort through any angry feelings that keep bubbling up, and process them before sharing. Tonight: Get some distance from others. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Emphasize what is going on with a group of friends. Maintain a caring position, especially with a dear friend. A power play is likely to occur around a loved one. Know that you cannot interfere or protect this person, despite your desire to help. Tonight: Join your friends. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Understand what is happening with a family member. You might experience some pressure from someone who is in charge. Your responsibilities demand attention, and there is no way around it. Expect a tantrum from a loved one. Tonight: Home is where the heart is. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Your beliefs could trigger quite a response. You might need to use other words to communicate what you are feeling. Express your thoughts in a meaningful way. A friend could shock you with his or and a babysitter.
Be clear that any extra money from either of you, gets looked at with that list in mind.
If he resists, protect yourself. Fight depression, get counselling and financial advice, and tell him he’s risking your relationship.
- I was recently “winked” at online by someone whose dating profile was hard to understand.
I realized that there was either a language or education problem, because he could neither spell nor compose a full sentence. I didn’t respond. I prefer to play smart and not try to figure anyone out online.
– Some people aren’t as articulate as others. Also, some newcomers to the country may struggle with writing profiles. But, if you were open-minded, you could’ve asked a few questions, especially if he otherwise seemed attractive or included some interesting details. her actions. Tonight: The fun begins when you decide it does. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
One-on-one relating will help make your path easier throughout the day. You might have difficulty believing that, though, as you feel someone has his or her eye on a situation that's near and dear to you. You would be well-advised to back off. Tonight: Use self-discipline. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
You might feel unusually ornery, and could unintentionally take it out on others. A little restraint would make your life substantially easier during the next few days. A loved one will want to have a new beginning or say goodbye to a problem. Tonight: Be cool. AQUARIUS ( Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
You might want to stay home or dive right into work. The objective remains the same: Avoid the myriad personalities in your life who could be reacting to the New Moon. High energy and uproar will surround you on some level. Tonight: Get away from the raving crowds. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
You might enjoy some of the ups and downs of your day. Tap into your ingenuity when something falls apart or when a friend seems to change his or her attitude toward you. Keep an open mind, and don't take comments so seriously. Tonight: Be with your favorite person.