Trav­ellers want to be greeted by best friend at trip’s end

The Guardian (Charlottetown) - - ENTERTAINMENT - Abi­gail Van Buren Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: We re­cently lost our dog, a 13-year-old springer spaniel, to old age. His pass­ing has left a huge hole in our hearts and lives.

We miss his com­pan­ion­ship, his per­son­al­ity and the struc­ture that car­ing for him brought to our lives. We’re 51 and 60, own our home and are fi­nan­cially se­cure.

Some of our friends are dis­cour­ag­ing us from adopt­ing an­other dog. They say we travel too much.

Last year we spent 12 weeks away from home. When we travel, we hire a trusted pet sit­ter to move into the house and at­tend to all our dog’s needs. Our pet al­ways seemed happy and healthy when we re­turned.

I an­tic­i­pate that we will con­tinue to travel a sim­i­lar amount in the fu­ture, but I’m not sure we will en­joy com­ing home to a house that has no dog to wel­come us back.

Abby, should a re­tired cou­ple who trav­els adopt a dog? – PET LOVER IN MEX­ICO

DEAR PET LOVER: At ages 51 and 60, if you and your hus­band are in good health, I see no rea­son why you shouldn’t adopt an­other dog if you wish.

Con­sider adopt­ing one that is no longer a puppy. Shel­ters and res­cue or­ga­ni­za­tions are good places to adopt an older dog that needs a lov­ing home.

DEAR ABBY: My neigh­bour com­plains of cars honk­ing at 8 in the morn­ing. I have done this only three times when I have taken my son to school. I wait in the car for him, but if he’s late by a cou­ple of min­utes, I’ll honk.

The neigh­bours think it’s rude be­cause they have a 3year-old who’s asleep at that time. Do I con­front them? What do you sug­gest? – ON A SCHED­ULE IN CAL­I­FOR­NIA

DEAR ON A SCHED­ULE: Know­ing it will awaken your neigh­bour’s child, re­frain from honk­ing the horn.

If you need your son to hurry up, use your cell­phone and call the house. Or, turn your en­gine off, lock the car and go in­side and get him.

DEAR ABBY: My friend of 25 years, “Vi­o­let,” moved back to town a few months ago af­ter liv­ing far away for the last 10 years. Whereas we’ve al­ways called and con­fided in each other of­ten, now that she’s here, I rarely see her, never talk with her and re­ceive po­lite but curt re­fusals to do any­thing to­gether.

I know the move was stress­ful for her, and I sus­pect the prob­lem is more about her than me. But I am re­ally hurt, and I miss her.

My last re­quest to get to­gether and talk was met with, “I’m only do­ing what I feel I can en­joy and man­age.” It seems like that doesn’t in­clude our friend­ship.

Should I sim­ply leave my old friend alone, or is there some­thing you can sug­gest? – JUST PLAIN SAD

DEAR SAD: Write Vi­o­let a short, sweet note. Tell her that you care about her, have al­ways trea­sured her friend­ship and hope it will con­tinue. Let her know that when she feels like talk­ing, you will be there for her. It’s re­ally all you can do at this point.

Af­ter that, the ball will be in her court and you should NOT sit by the phone wait­ing for a call. Go on with your life and your other friend­ships as be­fore. If she re­sponds, ter­rific. If not, it will be her loss. Do not make it yours.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline

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