Opening Ceremony lives up to expectations
Puts on a festive drag show at Fashion Week
neW yorK — opening Ceremony, the label that always seems to find quirkier and more unusual ways to display its clothes during Fashion Week, upped the ante on sunday with a festive drag show, featuring a surprise performance by Christina aguilera and an appearance by nicki minaj.
the event, called the gift of showz, was created by sasha velour, the drag performer who last year won season 9 of rupaul’s drag race, and starred velour and a number of other prominent drag performers.
the performers wore items from opening Ceremony’s latest collection as they took the stage at a West village cabaret, le poisson rouge, to model or to lip sync, cheered on by an enthusiastic crowd that included minaj in the front row. the rapper was attending her first show since Friday’s altercation with Cardi b at a Fashion Week party that made headlines.
as the performers did their numbers, a running joke emerged that aguilera was there, but at first, it turned out only to be a cutout figure of her, and then it was an imitator. at the end, though, the kidding was over, and the real aguilera turned up to delight the crowd with a song of her own.
over the years, opening Ceremony’s founders, Humberto leon and Carol lim, have found a series of inventive ways to present their clothes at Fashion Week. they once had an edible wall of oozing chocolate. another time, it was a martial arts display. last year, they gave a 40-minute dance performance.
leon wrote in a program note that growing up gay in a traditional Chinese family in los angeles, he discovered an all-ages club that featured drag shows, teaching him about “a community i didn’t know i had been longing for.”
“What drew me to drag shows as a teenager is the same thing that propelled Carol and me to start opening Ceremony,” he said. “a celebration of individuality, freedom of expression, and the idea that realizing your dreams is only a fabulous outfit away.”
performers included Hungry, who is based in berlin and is singer bjork’s makeup artist, and the american drag artist lypsinka, along with a number of other artists.
my wife and i have been together since 2010. our marriage has never been perfect, but we have managed to stay together. We’ve both been married before and have kids from our first marriages.
last weekend, my wife’s exhusband (father of her 14-yearold son) died — either from an overdose, or by suicide.
instead of her son being distraught, he is taking the news well. His dad has not been in his life much, since the dad has been in prison multiple times.
my wife, however, is torn up over his death. she has said things such as, “i can’t believe he is gone; why would he do this to us...?” she has been crying practically nonstop.
this is taking a toll on our already challenging relationship. i feel as though she is still in love with him and is going to miss him.
i feel the opposite way about my ex-wife (mother of my kids). if she died, i would be throwing a huge party. i’d celebrate, not cry.
i can’t imagine anyone being this upset over someone they haven’t had a relationship with in 10 years. He has never paid child support, so there is no financial attachment.
i can’t help feeling that because she is so upset about this death, that maybe there was more going on between them over the years, during the time we’ve been together.
am i wrong for thinking there is something wrong here?
yes, there is something wrong here. With you.
perhaps your wife is crying and carrying on because she is basically begging you to notice and to talk to her about her feelings. not for you to tell her how to feel, or expound on how you would celebrate your ex’s death (that’s nice, by the way), but to comfort her, and ask her to describe her own emotions, even if you don’t understand or share them.
maybe she would emote a little less if you emoted a little more — or at all. yes, she should probably dial down her emotions, while you should dial up your own.
the person you should both be paying close attention to is this 14-year-old boy. Kids this age never express sadness or loss the way adults do. they suppress their emotions and feel anger, confusion, depression, guilt — and sometimes relief (and then guilt about their relief ) when an absent and/or troubled parent is out of their life forever.
you stepson also has to deal with a mother who is grieving, weeping and feeling victimized and abandoned — and a stepfather who has decided to be judgmental and jealous.
i suggest you keep your eye on the ball and pay very close attention to this teenager. He needs to feel supported by the two adults in his life. right now, he seems to have no one.
i’m a young woman. “adam” was recently hired where i work, and my general manager told me to train him.
immediately there was a noticeable tension between us. adam became extremely hostile after i corrected an action of his. He began to make derogatory statements to me and about me.
i walked away and pulled my manager to the side. He told adam that his behaviour was extremely inappropriate. adam was still rude. the next time i worked with him, he made statements regarding some of my coworkers and me.
the environment at work has quickly deteriorated.
i am moving and leaving this job in a few weeks, but should i still sit down with my manager and tell him what is going on and how i feel about it? — put-doWn employee
yes, have this talk. do not drop the ball, just because you are leaving. document these incidents involving “adam” and inform your manager. one person with bad chemistry or bad behaviour can quickly poison the entire work environment. Warning the manager about this employee would be your parting gift.
Dear Employee: Dear Amy:
— my best friend of 30 years — has terminal cancer.
my sister says i’ve already begun the grieving process.
are there things i can do to prepare myself for a loss of this magnitude? i feel emotionally exhausted by the looming fear. — already grieving
i’m so sorry you are going through this.
my own experience with grief was that, like your sister, i thought i could “pre-grieve” before my own loss was complete.
i was wrong. grief hits everyone differently; it envelops some people in rolling waves, while others walk the path in more predictable ways.
my main suggestion is that you deliberately shelve your grief for later, and do your very best to live noW. as your husband experiences his illness, you should look — and treasure — tiny moments of togetherness. Write love letters to one another. look at photo albums. listen to the pop hits of your youth. Walk toward this uncertain horizon together, hand in hand, even if you are strolling in the hospital ward, pulling an iv pole alongside you.
regret amplifies grief. don’t add this burden to your loss. live and love now. grieve later.
Model walks at Opening Ceremony Runway September 2018 at New York Fashion Week in New York City.