The Fun Way to "Work" on your Relationship
wWarm nights... Care-free days... Backyard BBQs... Sounds like a perfect recipe for family fun. This summer you probably have plenty of day trips and weekend adventures planned for the little ones – waterparks, camping, the Night Market, and local beaches top the list of activities for most families in the Lower Mainland during the beautiful months of July and August. But what about you and your sweetie? Have you planned some special ways to celebrate the season with your spouse? Summer is a wonderful time to reinvigorate a relationship that may have taken a hit due to the demands of your pint-sized loved ones. It’s normal for your relationship to slide down the priority list when you become parents. With daycare, school trips, endless laundry and bedtimes to coordinate, giving a little lovin’ to your partner-in-crime may seem like just another task on the to-do list. Nonetheless, maintaining your relationship is a must if you want to weather the storms of parenthood and enjoy the special moments together for a long time to come. One of the best ways you can strengthen or renew your relationship is to spend some time honouring your shared values. Shared values are what originally brought the two of you together and what led you to start a family. “Shared values…. Hmmm…. That sounds a little touchy feely. I don’t think my hubby will really go for that.” But shared values are actually easy to identify and a lot of fun to incorporate into your lives. Here are some common ones: humour, beauty, adventure, culture, fitness, health, friendship. When you take the time to honour your shared values now (even though you’re busy parents) you feed your relationship in meaningful and fun ways. To help discover your shared values take a moment and ask each other these questions: 1. When do you feel at your best? 2. What were your favourite things to do together before you had kids? 3. What new activity or adventure have you been dreaming about? These questions may take you on a trip down memory lane or lead you to dream up future goals and plans. Either way, the ideas that come from these questions will show you what you value as individuals and which values you share as a couple. So when you finally manage to finagle some time away from the kids, don’t spend it doing “whatever”. Make the time really special and plan an activity that honours your values. There’s no excuse for boring date nights! Spice it up and invest in your relationship with activities that you are both passionate about. Relationships do take work but that work can be fun! Spend some quality time doing activities that bond the two of you, bringing you closer together as a couple, not just as parents. Happy parents raise happy kids!